(Closed) New home over shadowing Wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Home
  • poll: DId your new house over shadow your Wedding?
    Yes : (18 votes)
    39 %
    No : (22 votes)
    48 %
    Other (explain) : (6 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1611 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Our wedding is in a month, and we just unexpectedly bought a house as well.  We don’t close until the end of July, but the house seems to have taken precedence over the wedding… I am unfortunately kind of done with the wedding, and the house seems so much more important, so I don’t know if it is going to come back.

    Post # 5
    Member
    14496 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We bought a house a little under a year before the wedding and I dont think it over shadowed it at all.  Focus didnt suddenly shift toward the house since we took it nice and slow with furnishing and decorating the house – partly due to financial constraints.  (Heck, its been almost 2 years now and we still havent completely unpacked everything from the dining room). 

    Post # 6
    Member
    731 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We close on our house in 2 weeks and the wedding is in September. I feel like I haven’t even thought about the wedding for a few weeks now. Buying a house is pretty stressful, and we have had a long closing, its making it worse.

    But I was also involved in a bad car accident 2 weeks ago and have to get a new car too.

    I hope the excitement and interest will come back once everything settles down.

     

    Post # 7
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    195 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    We bought a home in January that is currently undergoing a lot of remodeling/decorating and won’t be ready for move in until September. It has been torture waiting for everything to get finished. Fiance has been so wrapped up with working with the contractors and I have been so wrapped up working with the decorator. The whole process has consumed so much of our time. We just got engaged last week and I have totally put the house on the backburner since then! My mind is completely in wedding mode now. They are both such exciting events in our life. I just worry come September, I will be a big ball of stress between dealing with our move and being closer to our wedding date. Fiance and I have discussed it though, and we’ve decided it’s best for him to take on the majority of responsibility when it comes to the house, and I will focus primarily on wedding planning. Of course we will still communicate and work together in both areas when needed. It’s going to be a crazy year, but we are both very excited for what’s in store!

    Post # 8
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    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We just bought a house and our wedding is in about 80 days. I think because our wedding is so close it is hard to totally put the wedding on the back burner. So it has just really been about balance. This week and last week have been completely dedicated to house stuff though, like selecting painters, contractors, and carpet after work every day. But I’m still sending emails and making phone calls in regards to the wedding simultaneously. So I voted yes but it is more of a yes, a little bit.

    Post # 9
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    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We close in 15 days, move sometime in the 2 weeks after, and get married in 120some days. The house is SO much more interesting to plan around. Afterall, the wedding is just 5 hours long (for us), but the house will be our home for the next 30-40 years. 

    I recently had to force myself to start looking at my todo list for the wedding. I think another part of my wandering mind has to do with the fact that I planned all the things I was most interested in first and now I’m left with the things I have no interest in, like picking an aisle runner and buying my veil. I’ve also put off making a lot of wedding purchases because I didn’t want them to get banged up/lost in the move. Once we’re moved in and have the basics unpacked (and our invitations go out), I expect to hit my second wave. 

    Post # 10
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    1095 posts
    Bumble bee

    We are currently in the process of looking for a house. Actually, we are making an offer today on a house we visited Tuesday. I must say that it has taken alot of time, and I would imagine that if we get the house it will take much more! I guess it’s overshadowed the wedding insofar as FI’s involvement (ie: he’d rather look for the house than plan the wedding… understandibly). If we get this house, we will move in August, and our wedding is in October… It’s going to be crazy!

    Post # 11
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    527 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I voted Other.  Fiance and I just bought our first house and our engagement party is only a month away.  I have turned all of my attention to the house and have forgotten all about the party :S It didn’t occur to me until my cake lady emailed me because she was worried I had changed my mind since I hadn’t replied to her messages lol 

     

    I think it would be overwhelming but amazingly spectacular 🙂  embrace it!

    Post # 12
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    2196 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We bought our house April 29/11 and were married June 4/11. It overshadowed it for a bit but then we re-grouped! We moved in at the end of August (after the wedding) so it gave us some time. That first few weeks you won’t be be able to get it out of your head, but I assure you once all the paperwork and moving is done you’ll get right back into wedding mode! 🙂 🙂 Congrats on the big purchase!!!

    Post # 15
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    2106 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @MrsTimmy:  We got a post office box because we were under contract on one house, lost it, under contract on another, etc etc. doesn’t help you now, but I highly suggest any house hunting bees get a PO Box (the smallest is less than $30 for 6 months at the one by me). It means that I will be getting RSVPs in before, during, and after the move. We picked a post office right by FI’s work. 

    Also, CONGRATS to my fellow buyin’ bees! 

    Post # 16
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    1408 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    i have completely lost interest in the wedding as well. All i can think about right now is house house house. sigh i am hoping once we move in i will get excited about the wedding again. 

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