New Job and Pregnancy?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i would wait until 12/14 weeks and tell them.  maybe feel out the culture of the company in the meantime. just work hard and show you are a valuable employee.  it is against the law to fire a pregnant woman.  they would have to have just cause.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

This happened to my new co-worker, except she knew she was pregnant when she came in for the interview. After she was offered the job and accepted, she requested a meeting with my boss where she told him in private that she was pregnant. No big deal. None of us looked at her sideways or thought anything of it. She is allowed to go to her doctor’s appointments as anyone else would be, and she will be out for maternity leave like anyone else. However, I do feel bad for her because of the timing and how our benefits work, she will not be getting paid for some of the time when she out for maternity leave. I would tell your new employer as soon as you can if it were me (along the same time line as if you were telling anyone else), especially since you said it is a family-friendly company.

Post # 4
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Worker bee

I would definitely talk to someone about it. If you don’t, they could see it as intentionally hiding it. 

As someone who’s always worked in at will jobs I understand completely. I was once told at a job, after being given a promotion “you know this means you can’t have a baby now right?” While technically they couldn’t fire me, I wouldn’t be able to prove it was for that that, since it can be for any reason or no reason (meaning an employer can fire you for being pregnant as long as they don’t say it’s for being pregnant). 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

90 day probation does not give an employer permission to fire a woman because she is pregnant (in the US). 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

christinakhar :  Giving you a reason does not mean that is always the reason. However, you need to show evidence of a discriminatory intent. You’d need to speak to a lawyer that does employment law in your state to figure out what to do next if you get fired. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

christinakhar :  I’d wait until you’re out of the first trimester and out of the 90 day probation before I’d say anything.  They cannot fire you for being pregnant

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Obviously they can’t fire her for being pregnant, but I doubt they’d be dumb enough to say that was why. If you have a 90-day probation all they have to say is “it didn’t work out”. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

christinakhar :  She has not gone out on maternity leave yet, but she has been preparing for it by doing some projects she knows will need to get done in that time and scheduling things out for us. But a couple of other co-workers and myself are going to step in to help where needed while she is gone. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

This sort of happened to me but not exactly as I was kind of a “transfer” so they transferred my sick leave (but not vacation) and I got to start my retirement (matching) right away as well as no loss in my health insurance.  They had short term disability which I qualified for.  I had already accepted and put in my 2 weeks at my old job and I found out the day after I put in my 2 weeks!  I actually told HR right away but didn’t tell anyone else until I was like 20 weeks.  I didn’t have an issue really.  I didn’t qualify for FMLA but they told me they would give me 12 weeks if I wanted.  I used the short term disability and whatever vacation/sick leave I had and ended up taking 9 weeks off.  No issues though as far as people being resentful.  I mean, there isn’t much you can do about it!  I just had my second and they hired a very pregnant person right after I went on leave (like 6-7mo pregnant).  She only took off 6 weeks though as she didn’t have any real vacation or sick leave saved.  But no issues as far as being angry or anything (of course, they were aware when they hired her).

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

SLOBee :  Technically, yes it is illegal discrimination to terminate employment because of pregnancy. But no employer would ever admit that it was the true reason for termination – they will point fingers at “performance issues”, not being a good fit, etc. And it is pretty impossible to prove that pregnancy was the reason, unless the employer is stupid enough to put it blatanlty in writing like in the email, have witnesses to the conversations (and even then current employee who was a witness would be reluctant to testify against employer in fear of retaliation), or have it in some written form.

Post # 14
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Worker bee

It also depends on if it’s at will employment or not. If it’s at will, they can pretty much fire you for anything, except specific reasons, and even then no one is dumb enough to say they’re firing for those reasons. You can be fired for your hair color. You can be fired blinking too much. You can be fired if you have to wear a uniform but it doesn’t look right on you. I can go on and on. I have a friend who had to go back to work right after having a c section or would be fired. I currently work as a substitute teacher and while we can take off as long as we want (as long as we work 10 days that year) but there is no pay or any type of benefits. And if you don’t meet those 10 days (such as you have a baby early in the year before 10 days and decide to stay out for awhile) you’re gone. The reason? No that you were pregnant or had a baby but that you didn’t fulfill the days you had to work to be eligible. While you can’t legally be fired for race or religion, ethnicity, gender, etc, all a supervisor has to say is it was a conflict of differences. I had a whole paper once on reasons a person could be fired for legally. It’s outrageous. But unless you can prove (and as accuser the burden of proof would be on you) that it was that reason only, you have nothing to stand on sadly. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’d wait as long as you can to tell them and ideally after the probationary period.  If they are a super family friendly culture, then you probably can tell them sooner.  Keep in mind, that while you may think you look pregnant, other people will likely have no clue.  Especially if this is your first.  Find things that don’t emphasize the bump if/when it shows up.  flowy tops, pattern tops, demi panel maternity pants made me look less pregnant than full belly pants.  

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