Post # 1
hi bees, need some advice on battling new job blues. I quit my job for a much better paying job with better hours, so on paper a great move. It offers flexibility which suits having kids and will let us pay off our mortgage quicker. But I loved my old job despite the crappy pay, the people were incredible. I really miss them and am struggling to connect with my new employees, who don’t seem to socialise or chat. I’m feeling really depressed with my decision, and questioning whether money has come at a cost to my happiness. Any advice would be appreciated.
Post # 2
newlymrs : Stay with it. I felt the exact same way at my last job, and ended up formimg close relationships with people from other departments, even forming relationships with the people who seemed the least likely to bond! I’ve since moved on from that job, and still keep in touch with the people I befriended.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2019 - City, State
Stick it out a little. Sometimes it takes time to adjust to a new job, you might end up really loving it.
Post # 4
Give yourself time. I moved into a job where I had no friends (and really I still don’t). But with the pay and flexibility it’s different. I am very thankful I moved.
Make sure that you don’t see the negatives in your new job only. Focus on the positives:
1. Better paying
2. More flexibility
3. More to save
Don’t sit and dwell on negatives you’ll only make yourself unhappy
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2019 - USA
It takes time to adjust and make new connections, don’t sweat it !!
Post # 6
newlymrs : stick it out. I’ve hated every job I’ve had up until the 6 month mark.
Post # 7
Thanks lovelies I’ll give it time. I never thought I’d feel kind of homesick for my old job. I guess it’s like my comfort zone
Post # 8
I had some great friendships at my previous job, and that’s why I stayed for 6+ years, despite in the end it became clear that it wasn’t going to progress.
So I changed jobs, got a big pay increase (and it was only better from then on pay wise). And not gonna lie, I never ended up gelling with the people. Sure they’re mostly nice and we are friendly, but I wouldn’t call any of them my friends outside of work. Whereas some of the girls from my previous job we’ve been to each other’s weddings and other life events because we were close. You get used to not being as social at work and you do what needs to be done and get to where you need to get career wise.
Give it a year or two, and look for progression elsewhere. It’s all for the better. And remember, it is a workplace so while it’s nice for it to also be a good social network, don’t expect to meet new BFFs at work.
Post # 9
newlymrs : 100% I have been there, but it does get better.
As a rule I always give a job 6 months (bare minimum 3 months if it’s awful) before making any actual decisions.
Homesickness is a thing with the workplace, especially if you were at your previous job for a long time, and forged close bonds. But like with all homesickness, things get better. Just make sure you have an exit strategy if in 6 months it’s still getting you down