New job blues

posted 2 years ago in Career
Post # 2
1165 posts
Bumble bee

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newlymrs :  Stay with it. I felt the exact same way at my last job, and ended up formimg close relationships with people from other departments, even forming relationships with the people who seemed the least likely to bond! I’ve since moved on from that job, and still keep in touch with the people I befriended. 

Post # 3
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

Stick it out a little. Sometimes it takes time to adjust to a new job, you might end up really loving it. 

Post # 4
6377 posts
Bee Keeper

Give yourself time.  I moved into a job where I had no friends (and really I still don’t).  But with the pay and flexibility it’s different.  I am very thankful I moved.

Make sure that you don’t see the negatives in your new job only.  Focus on the positives:

1. Better paying

2. More flexibility

3. More to save

Don’t sit and dwell on negatives you’ll only make yourself unhappy

Post # 5
1411 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: USA

It takes time to adjust and make new connections, don’t sweat it !!

Post # 6
1062 posts
Bumble bee

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newlymrs :  stick it out. I’ve hated every job I’ve had up until the 6 month mark. 

Post # 8
1171 posts
Bumble bee

I had some great friendships at my previous job, and that’s why I stayed for 6+ years, despite in the end it became clear that it wasn’t going to progress. 

So I changed jobs, got a big pay increase (and it was only better from then on pay wise). And not gonna lie, I never ended up gelling with the people. Sure they’re mostly nice and we are friendly, but I wouldn’t call any of them my friends outside of work. Whereas some of the girls from my previous job we’ve been to each other’s weddings and other life events because we were close. You get used to not being as social at work and you do what needs to be done and get to where you need to get career wise.

Give it a year or two, and look for progression elsewhere. It’s all for the better. And remember, it is a workplace so while it’s nice for it to also be a good social network, don’t expect to meet new BFFs at work.

Post # 9
1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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newlymrs :  100% I have been there, but it does get better.

As a rule I always give a job 6 months (bare minimum 3 months if it’s awful) before making any actual decisions.

Homesickness is a thing with the workplace, especially if you were at your previous job for a long time, and forged close bonds. But like with all homesickness, things get better. Just make sure you have an exit strategy if in 6 months it’s still getting you down

Good luck!!

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