(Closed) New job depression

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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kitty_cupcake:  Every institution is different, and unfortunately some don’t appreciate the benefit of good hands-on job training. It sucks, and I really feel for you because it puts you in a tough spot.

Starting a new job is always difficult, especially if you were at your previous place for such a long time. It sounds like you have very high expectations of yourself, and what this change will do for you and your life. It’s good to be positive and hopeful, but you don’t want that to go too far and create unrealistic ideas and standards, or else nothing will live up to the vision. It’s only been a week and a half, so try not to get too down just yet and give things more time to settle. I know I always feel funny after a big change like that for a couple of months, even when things go smoothly!

The longer you’re there, the more you’ll get a feel for how to communicate with this manager (who sounds a little difficult!). If she operates like this all the time then it’s more than likely you’re not the first employee she’s struggled with, and I expect it will take more than being ‘not a good fit’ for your employment to change. I’m afraid I don’t have any specific advice for how to deal with the training situation, but I’m sure some more experienced bees will chime in about that.

I just wanted to say good luck, and keep on keeping on. You’re awesome for making such a bold move to get out of a work environment that was making you miserable and try for something better. I really hope it pays off for you, and will be sending you my best vibes. 

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Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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kitty_cupcake:  Ugh, it’s the worst when you end up with a difficult manager like that. That sort of behaviour and attitude is just not constructive in a work place!

Keep your head down, do your best, and let things take their course. If she is silly enough to not keep you on then it would be her loss, and she’ll likely have issues with the next person if she continues to not offer training. I hope it doesn’t come to that though. 

I’m not in the US so I’m not sure about unemployment benefits, but I would expect that if you are involuntarily dismissed then you should be eligible. Deeeeefinitely don’t take my word on that though.

Try and stay positive – the learning curve is always difficult (especially when there isn’t someone to help!) but at some point things will start to click and go much more smoothly. In the meantime, don’t let her silly comments dent your self esteem and confidence. You can do this – it’s just going to take a little longer since she’s unwilling to help steer you in the right direction!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

It’s understandable that you feel the way you do. Different workplaces operate in different ways. She definitely sounds like a difficult person to work with.

Just writing to give you my support, because I know what it’s like. With my job, I was completely thrown into the deep end with no training and a LOT of expectations. Like, I’m talking going straight from the bottom of the ladder to running the whole thing. Very little experience and no qualifications yet I was expected to know everything.

It was frustrating and I felt really depressed, stressed and overwhelmed in the beginning. But I was able to learn a lot and get used to the demanding, high-pressure nature of the job and work culture. Don’t worry, you’ll get there. It sucks being thrown into the deep end, but when you make it in the end, you feel really proud of yourself and what you’ve been able to achieve.

I suggest you work hard, try your best and take things one day at a time. I’m sure you’ll be able to learn what you need to know. And if it doesn’t work out, it’s not the end of the world. Plenty of other opportunities out there. I can’t say whether you’ll be able to get unemployment benefits because I’m not in the US, but I would assume so.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I’m sorry to hear how you’re being treated. I hate my manager and have been withy company for 8 years but what you’re going through is why I’m so scared to start somewhere new. Can you start looking for another job? Unfortunately, if you’re fires you can’t get unemployment. Do your best, try not to stress, and do you think your manager would listen to any of your concerns?

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

If you are unsure of how to do something in excel, just google it! There are tons of helpful sites – I google how to do stuff all the time 

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Blushing bee

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kitty_cupcake:  I am almost 100% sure that you would qualify for unemployment. It does depend on state though and if there is a minimum that you need to work at your new company. I’m from IL and you qualify for unemployment after 30 days. Also as long as you are fired for something that is not your fault, and you can prove it then you are fine. For example if you truly try your best for the next 3 weeks and your manager fires you, they need to give a reason. Your case would be based on the fact that you received no training and were thrown into a new work environment, you can argue that you made the effort and took a class which you paid for out of pocket as training due to the company not training you. This can go many ways. What I can tell you for sure, is that if you are fired or laid off always file for unemployment. (Unless you were fired For something you did wrong and know it) If you have any questions feel free to ask me, I deal with a lot of HR and unemployment cases at my job. 

For now, hang in there and try your best! For all you know you will have excel down within the next week, all about repetition. And you will not be worried about being fired. 

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think the only way you can get unemployment is if you are fired.  If you quit a job, you aren’t eligible.

Are there any other employees you can ask for help?  I started a new position recently and the manger is difficult as well, but I try to go to other employees with questions and for guidance before I go to her.  It’s tough starting something new but hopefully it will work out to be something great for you!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

yaa.. its happen to me..

today  is my first day on my office. my manager give me a very thick book, twice than bible and he just tell me the information abut my goal. he dont tell me the technicall.. oww… i must learn it by myself

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

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kitty_cupcake:  I just posted something similar to this.. I’m in a new job and feel unhappy. I’ve been there for a total of 10 working days, I have training but not much and I’m expected to knoweverything  and be fast

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m so sorry that the new situation isn’t the greatest. I’ve been at my place for >10 years, and I would also be extremely unsettled to suddenly be in a new environment. I give you massive credit for having the guts to leave your former situation because you knew that it was bad; lots of people would just hang around and slowly pine away. It sounds like things are looking up at the new place, which is great. I hope that things continue to go well! And good thinking in noticing that your manager is a gossip and knowing her faults. Sounds like you’re aware of everything and are going in with your eyes open.

 

Post # 14
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Busy bee

This sounds so much how it was when I started my current job. I was thrown in, given responsibility for a lot of stuff without instruction, AND everyone was gossipy as hell (still are!). I used to hide out in the kitchen, offering to wash tea cups etc. to give myself a break from the office. It was a very tough few weeks while I adjusted.

Remember you will adjust though. You will adapt to their way of working and you will be fine. It’s so hard, and I have no solid advice, but try and keep yourself detached and not take it too personally. 

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