New job is affecting my relationship

posted 1 year ago in Relationships
Post # 2
377 posts
Helper bee

The fiance, I, dog and cats had a full sized mattress (not bed, just mattress) for the first four years together. Now that we have a queen and I’m not sure how we got by. >.<

I think you’ll just have to get used to the mattress. We had our mattress pressed against the wall and that would allow one of us to sleep kind of against the wall if needed. 

If your bed itself isn’t super comfy consider investing in a mattress topper. 

Something that also helps is having a larger blanket. Even though we have always had a full sized bed we usually had a king sized comforter. TSo, even if you don’t have space you have all the blanket you need. When we get our next comforter we’re switching out the queen size for the king–so, it really does help. 

We’re working opposite schedules right now (and I just quit my 2nd overnight job). Try making time for each other.  Wake up an hour earlier to spend some time before you head off to work.   Try doing small things to make things easier for each other, like getting coffee ready or making lunch. When you notice yourself getting annoyed try to redirect it. 

If you feel cramped get out of the apartment more often, even if it’s just to go hang out at the library. 

Post # 4
865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

my husband works in the morning and i usually work at night. so we only get to hang out about 2 hours before he goes to bed. we try to make lunch togther and have dinner togther or at least sit there while the other person eats lol. i agree witht he pp that u should set some quality time away from eberythng cell phones etc to catch up and talk about the situation and a temporary one. 


Post # 5
7852 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Is it possible to get a bigger bed, or put an extra bed in another room? My husband and I recently went from a queen bed to a king and it’s made SUCH a difference in our ability to sleep peacefully together. Before that, I’d just go in the spare room when he was bothering me, which was also preferable to tossing and turning next to each other in a small bed all night.

Post # 6
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

you should get a bigger bed or maybe add another small one that fits your space

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