(Closed) New job starts 2 weeks before wedding, and my bosses cancel their RSVP

posted 6 years ago in Career
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  • Post # 3
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    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee

    The SAME EXACT thing happened to me. I didn’t want to invite my boss but because I’m his only employee I kind of felt obligated. So I did, and he RSVP’d yes for his wife and him. Well I put in my notice a week or two after he RSVP’d and then he ended up coming up with a bullshit excuse on why he couldn’t come. I was pissed because I didn’t want to invite him in the first place!

    Post # 4
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    2416 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    I think its one of those things where they figure they were just invited as a courtesy anyways, since they were your bosses, and now that it’s no longer true, they really don’t see a reason to go…

    Post # 5
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    3175 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    @RoundSolitaire:  It would probably hurt my feelings, honestly. My fiance & I quit jobs (for the same business) in January, and our managers were very supportive & we have actually called in a few favors for the wedding. They’ve been more than happy to help. I guess now you know they don’t really consider you a friend, but that sucks. 🙁

    Post # 6
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    369 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Wow.  I think that is really immature of them.  You provided them ample notice.  People find new jobs all the time.  I think as long as you provide them notice, and let them know in a respectful way, that is professional and shouldn’t warrant them changing their mind on the RSVP.  I am on very good terms with most of my old employers.  Most people understand that people are looking for better opportunities. 

    But there isn’t really anything you can do.  So I would just try to move on.  Congrats on your new job! 

    Post # 7
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    986 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Leaving even on good terms is still dumping them.  I’m sure they will feel awkward.  

     

    Post # 9
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    1999 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    thats a shame, I feel like people need to realize that sometime we move on in our lives and careers, its nothing personal!

    Post # 11
    Member
    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    First of all, congratulations! 

    I don’t find it very surprising that they cancelled their RSVP. Since it sounds like your relationship was more on the professional side, I would’ve found it awkward, too, if they would still came. I’m sure there’s no other feeling besides general awkwardness in play here, like thinking about gifts, etc. When you’re leaving on good terms, there’s nothing they can be upset about, I wouldn’t take it personal that they’re not attending your wedding. 

    Post # 13
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    226 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2007

    I think it’s understandable that they cancel.  They’d have come because of your work relationship anyway so just let it go and try to have fun.  

    Post # 14
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    1815 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @RoundSolitaire:  Like 2 and half months before the wedding. We kept in touch and he told me he was still planning on coming. Then 2 weeks before the wedding is when he came up with his BS excuse. Try not to take it personally. Even though I was VERY tempted to call him and say ‘I didn’t want you there in the first place, dickweed!’ 😀

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