Post # 1
I am currently 15 weeks pregnant, due at the end of March. Can I hear stories about people getting a new job and going on maternity leave on that kind of timeline?
Is that wrong? I am kind of showing but you can’t tell, it’s easily hideable for now.
Post # 2
I need more context. Technically it is illegal to be discriminated against due to pregnancy, but I don’t know if you need to have worked there for a certain amount of time before being allowed paid leave. You could take unpaid, and they aren’t supposed to retaliate.
So do you have a new job? Are you looking? Did you not disclose the pregnancy (your don’t have to) or do you plan not to? Maybe I am wrong, but just because something is illegal doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. So I would worry that there would be resentment in my department if coworkers had to cover for me that soon into a new job – especially if you take several months (and 8 weeks is not that long for a new baby).
Post # 3
I have found a new job that I really want that I think I’d have a good chance of getting. I know it’s illegal to discriminate against someone because of their pregnancy. I’m worried about the resentment issue. The position reports to someone I worked with when we were both at a different organization. She had a baby and did consulting work part time for a year. It’s a small team in a large organization and it would be a great career move for me. They offer 16 weeks of paid maternity leave but I don’t know if I’d be eligible for it. I’m mostly worried about the ethics and morality and resentment than the legal issues. I would plan to take 8 weeks right away and 8 weeks later if I’m eligible.
Post # 4
Personally I don’t see an issue with it. The US is super backwards in terms of maternity policies. Especially if they offer good maternity benefits to employees, well, they want you to use them! (Although like you said, you might not yet be eligible.)
If people have an issue with their coworker having a child and taking a required medical leave because of it, frankly I think that’s that person’s problem to overcome. If you don’t come back from maternity leave or something, then sure, that’s a waste of everyone else’s time. But otherwise, I think it’s ridiculous to treat new parents as some kind of inconveniece or abuse of the system.
Post # 5
I find it a little annoying depending on the job type, but at the same time, the alternative is being unemployed and possibly uninsured and that’s a worse deal.
My annoying example is people who have taken on the job of educational assistant for a life skills (read highly special needs) class and then literally cannot do the job because of the pregnancy… can’t do transfers, can’t dodge violent behaviors so can’t be near the students they were hired to help.
So as long as you are looking into something less physical, without danger to baby potential, then go for it. A pain to replace you quickly but necessary for your life. Anyone who truly holds it against you instead of rolling eyes and forgetting about it (at the worst) is a jerk.
Post # 6
Well, no one here is going to know if your specific employer is going to view you unfavorably or if it will get you off on the wrong foot with your new coworkers. That’s always the risk you take. Many people don’t have issues. Some do. I’m sure some employers or coworkers will find it annoying that they’ll have just trained you in and and then have to find a replacement to cover your leave right away.
But it isn’t illegal for you to find work while pregnant. It is illegal for them to discriminate against you for being pregnant. That’s pretty much all any one here can tell you.
Meanwhile if you are in the U.S., you should be far more concerned about the fact that you likely won’t qualify for FMLA so they don’t have to guarantee you’ll have a job to come back to if you take leave, and you may have a waiting period before any benefits such as health insurance, leave accrual, short term disability, or maternity leave actually kick in.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s wrong but I think it’s frowned upon by companies at least in the US anyway. But if it were me and it was a good career move if I got offered the job I’d take it.
I think in the US if you don’t qualify for FMLA it’s the companies discretion to offer you the leave but I could be wrong. Either way maternity leave in this country is a joke compared to other countries, makes me so angry.
Post # 8
anonbee3584 : check your state to see if you have job protection since FMLA won’t apply. I’m in Massachusetts and you only have to be employed for 3 months to qualify for 8 weeks of (unpaid) job protection so you’d be fine here.
In the US we treat new moms and babies like fucking garbage and yet we feel guilty about upsetting an employer? F that noise. You owe them nothing expect for to do a good job while they are paying you.
Post # 9
I got a new job two years ago and found out I was pregnant 3 weeks after I started. I switched jobs after maternity leave and I am now pregnant again a month into my new job. To most jobs we are just a number! No one gets to dictate when you have kids but you, babies are a blessing no matter what the timing that is my opinion
Post # 10
Depends on the situation. I got a new job but in the same place (different division) so I was still eligible for maternity leave. But if you start a new job in a new workplace you might not be eligible for FMLA, they usually ask for you to have worked for 12 months prior to going out.
Post # 11
So, we actually hired someone who was pregnant, she was completely upfront with us when she interviewed and was offered the job. We still really wanted her so we not only hired her but gave her the full maternity leave when she gave birth. We even threw a little shower for her.
Because she was up front, it let us make the decision. We wanted her and my office treats pregnant women and new moms like queens. There was no resentment because she was up front with us. I think if you get an offer you need to be up front with them. If you wait until you’re hired on, THAT is what will cause the resentment. And you usually have to have worked in a place for 12mos before you are eligible for FMLA, so I wouldn’t count on that. My friend is pregnant and recently started a new job, and they worked with her to give her FMLA, and part of the additional leave, but not all of it. But again, she was completely upfront when she applied and interviewed.
Post # 12
Depends on the job.
HOWEVER I told them I was pregnant up front in my very first interview because I felt like it was the right thing to do. They’ve since said they would have still hired me if they hadn’t known but would look at me differently and that it showed a lot of morals/ethics to be open and honest from the jump knowing that it might cost me the job. In the end, that tipped the scales in my favor and showed them the type of person I was.
Post # 13
I’ve done it twice. The first time, I was very newly pregnant and did not disclose until I had an offer, and the second time I got pregnant two weeks after I started. Neither qualified me for FMLA coverage as I hadn’t been with either company for longer than a year- but I was able to take off 12 weeks with short term disability coverage so that helped. In both cases, I worked my ass off for the 8 or so months I was there, and my bosses and coworkers were really cool about it. So- probably not ideal, but if you’re worth it, I think most companies/co-workers will roll with it.
Post # 14
Depends where you live -I know in Canada there wouldn’t be any problems with this. You’re entitled to your full year of leave as long as you’ve worked 600 hours in the last year and been legally contributing to the unemployment fund for that time.