New jobs and having babies…

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Helper bee

I would think long-term. If the new job would make you happier and be better career-wise, then I’d pursue the job. Ask about maternity benefits for sure, so you know what to expect and save for if necessary… but waiting a few more months to be more happily employed seems like a huge gain!

I just got a new job because we intent on TTC soon and IMO if I’m going to have to be away from my child, I at least wanted to enjoy what I was doing.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

llevinso :  I would go with the new job if it would make me happier long term. I’ve known plenty of people who changed jobs WHILE pregnant – life happens. Any employer who thinks less of you because you dared to have a family is an asshole you don’t want to work for anyways. Good employers understand that these things can’t always be perfectly timed. 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would push back TTC a few months so that you’d have been there a minimum of one year so you’re covered by FMLA.

Paid maternity leave is great, but if it’s not going to make or break you, I’d take the new job and start putting away the extra savings to cover it.

Post # 6
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Helper bee

llevinso :  Well, obviously, no one KNOWs they’d be happier at a new job. But what I mean, I guess, is the opportunity especially compared to your current employment.

I don’t think being comfy at a job is a reason to stay, but I definitely understand the pull. But every time I’ve pulled the plug on a job that had me stagnant, I’ve much more enjoyed the new job and the challenges it brings. That first step is scary, but has been worth it!

This is just a personal decision that depends on what fulfills you and makes you happy. If you can stay at your new place knowing that it doesn’t make you happy, but it isn’t eating at your soul, then maybe staying is best for you.

When to being TTC would depend partly on the financial situation, personally. I’d also wait a few months to focus on acclamating to the new job and responsibilities, but that doesn’t mean you need to.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Experts say you should re-evaluate your career and current work situation every 3-5 years, so it sounds like you’re due! It’s worth a shot to explore and interview this possibility, and if turns out it’s not a good fit, you don’t have to pursue it. Good luck, bee!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

llevinso :  Good! Sometimes good opportunities fall into your lap. Either way, you probably know what you can expect from your current job. If you do take this new gig and don’t enjoy it, you don’t have to stay there forever either. I’m sure you’ll get a clearer picture soon from your friend.

I know I’m chomping at the bit to TTC as well, but sometimes it helps to get those ducks in a row 🙂 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper

llevinso :  also check if your state has a more favorable policy than FMLA. For example in Massachusetts you only need to be an employee for 3 months to be granted 8 weeks unpaid to protect your job. That might change your timing too. 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

look into the new job and keep your ttc timeline. i started my current new job when i was 4 months pregnant and it was fine!

Post # 14
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Helper bee

llevinso :  I totally understand! But age+fertility isn’t an exact science. My SIL had her perfectly normal, healthy kids at 39 and 42, and they’re basically the best parents ever. A few months likely won’t make a difference. We all try to do our best!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee

Someone at our work was hired in at 6 months pregnant and received full maternity benefits. If they want you, they will hire you. Ask about benefits (all benefits, not just maternity) and understand the policies. Even if you were pregnant today, you wouldn’t deliver for ~9 months. Some benefits take 60 days to kick in, so you’d be covered.

 

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