(Closed) New job/taking time off for the wedding

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble bee

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Tachetetreasures:  

I can’t speak from experience, but Fiance is starting a new job this year a few months before our wedding, and up front he told them he had some long weekends planned throughout the year as he is IN several weddings, not including his own.  They said it was no problem.  

However, we aren’t taking a 3 week honeymoon.  We actually may not be taking a honeymoon until several months later (we’re moving the month we are getting married).

All in all, it doesn’t really matter what my experience is.  Every employer will be different, and most would be understanding of it.  You might have to “borrow” from your PTO or just be unpaid for a few weeks depending on how you are paid.  I wouldn’t let a wedding hold you back from switching jobs if you’re miserable, though.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

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Tachetetreasures:  My sister did it, she rolled in all into the beginning offer. If they can’t do it they’ll tell you. It’s up to you to bring it up and give them specifics as far and dates and such.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

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Tachetetreasures:  It was pretty easy for me to take time off, but my husband started a new career around the time we were getting married and he was very upfront with them and told them the days he needed off. It wasn’t an issue. People get excited about weddings and he got all of the time he needed off.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

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Tachetetreasures:  My sister just started a new job and is getting married in October. At her old job, she was given a 2 week time period for a honeymoon. At her new job, they told her she could only take a week off.

I think you just need to be upfront once you get the offer. I can’t imagine most places wouldn’t be somewhat flexible with it. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Tachetetreasures:  I did it and it wasn’t a problem. During negotiations after they offered me the position I made sure that I would be able to take 2 weeks for my wedding and honeymoon just under 5 months into my new job. I was in the position to turn down the job if they weren’t going to give me the time off though and as PP said every employer will be different. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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Tachetetreasures: I just negotiated it after locking in comp and vacation. There’s a huge shortage of talent for what I do though – my role can take up six months or more to fill and it’s not even a director level role  

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

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Tachetetreasures:  Employers tend to be particularly understanding of weddings.  You just need to tell them after they extend the offer and before you accept it.  The vast majority of employers will allow the time off (though you may have to take the time unpaid), and unless you are desperate for work, I’d be hesitant to work somewhere that wasn’t understanding, as it may indicate lack of flexibility and understanding in other areas.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I started a new job in August and got married in October.  They weren’t able to give me the time paid, but I took unpaid time off. 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Ritz Carlton Laguna Niguel

I moved to a new team mid april and already had my date set… I just told them upfront I would be out for 2 weeks to get married and for our honeymoon. They didn’t say much. I’m not sure how 3 weeks would have gone. Ultimately I have the PTO days so it won’t affect my pay. I guess you just need to tell people that when you get an offer? You can’t postpone your wedding forever because of possibly employmeant changes though. 🙂 I think most places are understanding but depending on the company policies if might be unpaid time off.

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Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Fiance got laid off from his professional salaried, permanent job on Christmas Day (bosses were jerks).  It just happened to fall when I just got my contract job that was ending soon too, so we’d be both out of work near the wedding.  Fiance looked for anything, and got hired p/t shortly after at a retailer. 

He told them when he was hired, and they told him it was either the wedding or the job!  We were shocked since the job was minimum wage, part time casual hours.  Needless to say, he took the wedding over the job, and finally just got another job 2 weeks ago with more hours, benefits, and they’re letting him start after the wedding no problem. So really, it depends on the employer, but I would always tell them when you get an offer.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I was recently job hunting and, while it wasn’t for a wedding, had a trip planned already. Both companies who offered me positions were accepting of my need to take a week off so soon after starting (only 3 weeks in!). I think you will find most employers will be flexible.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I brought it up while we were finalizing the employment terms. Wedding time off is non negotiable for me and I let them know that before I started.

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