Post # 1
Fiance surprised me (well we talked about it but he took me off when least expected) with a kitty the other day. So now we have three cats. One of our resident cats is totally cool with the new kitty, but the other is not loving her.
She hid under the table, hissed and attached us if we had new kitty smell on us the first day. Now they are comfortable hanging in the same room so long as new kitty doesn’t get too close to her.
Today she started running up to the new kitty and hunting her a bit, she’s swiping at her, and new kitty runs away and seems completely oblivious to any agression unless she is actually being swiped at. But she has stopped swiping at us when we have the new kitty’s smell and is exploring the room where she is staying.
Any tips and tricks to make our older cat feel happy? She’s fine and social with our other resident cat (but we adopted them together) and I hate seeing her stressed and I have never introduced a new kitty to a resident cat before.
Post # 3
Congrats on the new kitty! I don’t have cats, but I’m going to bump this for the morning Bees who may be able to help 🙂
Post # 4
I would just let them do their thing. So long as no one is being actually injured, they will figure it out on their own.
Congrats on the new furbaby 🙂
Post # 5
I agree with RoyalLime. I’ve had several cats in my life and had to introduce new ones many times, they will work it out on their own.
Post # 6
Did you separate them first or just have them all together right from the start? Cats should be separated and slowly introduced to help prevent aggression. If you have not done so already, separate the new kitten to a bedroom or bathroom. Feed your old cats in front of the door, pet them, play with them, so they learn good things happen around the scent of the new cat.
Here are some tips for introducing cats: http://www.petfinder.com/cats/bringing-a-cat-home/cat-to-cat-introductions/
Post # 7
@sangriiia: Cats typically take anywhere from 2-4 weeks to get used to a new pet. I’ve had several cats over the years, and only once have I ever had a cat that didn’t get along with the others. He was male, dominant, and tried to establish dominance over the other 2 boy cats (terrorizing them). Needless to say, he was given to a good friend who had a girl cat that he got along with just fine.
I think your kitties will be fine, just give them some time to get used to each other.
Post # 8
@sangriiia: I second PPs. Keep the new kitten in a separate room for about a week. Slowly introduce the cats by taking a sock or something and putting the new kittens scent on it and then give it to your resident cats to get used to. You can also put their food bowls on opposite sides of a door so they can eat near each other. It can take awhile, but the best thing to do is to keep them separate for awhile.
Post # 9
@sangriiia: My vet told me to keep them separated but put a towel on where they usually sleep – and exchange their towels every few days so they get used to eachothers smell. She also told me to always have them eat together since animals bond when eating. Make sure the cats have eye contact with eachother, and move them closer together each feeding.
Post # 10
@pixiecat: We were told by the lady at the rescue to sit the kitten in its carrier so the old kitties could sniff, then if the other cats didn’t have an issue to open the door and let them sniff each other out. So we opened the door for a second and one of our cats was all good with her, went up to her and sniffed her no worried. But the other got a bit grumpy.
New kitty has been staying in another room 95% of the time but we have been opening the door for about 30 minutes/day after the first two days so the old kitties can sniff her out.
Basically we have done everything the rescue lady told us to do. :/
Today we seem to have progress though because our grumpy cat meowed to be let into the room with the kitty, then walked in and sniffed the kitty, swatted once and is now sniffing all of new kitty’s stuff. She’s not swiped at me at all today. 😀
Post # 11
@DaneLady: Thank you!
@RoyalLime: Yeah this morning we have actually made lots of progress, idk what happened but grumpy kitty is no longer hissing, just coming up and swatting near the new kitty (I think she’s trying to establish her dominance) and she is now being her cuddly normal self with us, which is lovely!
@Lyndzo: Thank you, I guess I am just being a crazy person, I took a week off when each of my other kitties were getting desexed to look after them.
@Sweet_Tea: That makes me feel better. 🙂 I know logically that it will take time I just hate seeing my older kitty stressed. Although this morning and really late last night she has seemed to be her old self again, she is cuddly and purring again which is awesome. 🙂
@pineapplez17: We have just started the food bowl things this morning, and tried the sock thing the other day but will keep it up! 🙂
@MrsBaldEagle: Thanks we have just started with the food bowl thing this morning and when we opened the door to kitty’s room our grumpy cat seems to have calmed down. 😀
Thanks again ladies, I am a crazy person who is just worried about my babies and needed some reassurance that things will be ok. 😀
Post # 12
@sangriiia: good luck! It took about a week for us to introduce our cat to our new kitten, but it all worked out! I’m sure you’ll be fine 🙂
Post # 13
Cats are extremely territorial and it does take weeks for newcomers and current residents to get used to each other. One does not simply dump a new pet into the family without some kind of problems arising. I rescued a cat from State Game Lands Last August and he is still not 100% integrated into the household. Newcomers should have their space limited and gradually expanded as the resident cats become more tolerant.
Post # 14
Just wanted to recommend Feliway! I have no idea if it actually works, lol, but it seems to help my kitties when they’re stressed. You can buy it in a spray or a diffuser that you plug into a wall outlet. We moved twice within two months and had very little cat stress–I think the Feliway is part of the reason why!
Post # 15
@howsweetitis: We just picked up some feliway this afternoon in spray form (couldn’t find the wall diffusers anywhere)! 😀
Post # 16
Feliway is good stuff, I’ve used it and liked it.
I have 3 cats, and let me ease your worries with an anectdote of my own. When I brought home the second cat, the older one hated him. To this day, they don’t much care for each other, but they at least leave each other alone. When we got the third one, the older one took to her, and the middle cat HATED her. He would hiss at her, growl at her, and swipe at her.
After the novelty wore off and he wasn’t suffering from change shock (cats can be so touchy about change), he seemed to tolerate her. Within a week, they were best friends. They still lay together, groom each other (well, she grooms him), and play together all the time. He’ll chase her to one end of the house, she’ll chase him back. They sit in the window and watch the birds together. She’ll jump on the cat tree and sit on his head until he lets her in. It’s all really quite sweet.
So give it some time, and you may be pleasantly surprised.