Post # 1
So I am getting married in 4 months and have been struggling with the name change decision. I had no doubt that I would not keep my name, but I wasn’t keen on his last name either. Jokingly I suggested we create a new last name and both change. He admitted that he’s never really liked his last name either because it had changed so many times from the original Sicilian name. I suggested that we go back to that and he is all about it. Is that totally crazy for us to both change our names? We don’t plan on having kids, so it’ll end with us, but we still think it would be nice to pay homage to his Sicilian roots. What do you think?
Post # 3
It sounds like you are both excited about a new last name – go for it! Just know that his parents may be a bit weirded out by the situation because of the whole "family name" thing.
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor
Not odd at all if you both like it
Post # 5
My fiance and I are also thinking about both changing our names to a new name. I didn’t like the idea of taking his (I don’t want to be owned) and he didn’t want to lose his hispanic roots by taking mine, but I think/thought it was important to have the same name, in case we have kids, and generally to make like easier. So we decided on using the spanish version of my last name– in theory. We are about 4 months out, and I don’t feel totally confident that he will go through with it (the name change not the wedding!)…so we may just keep our own names.
So I think it sounds cool, especially if it is the original version of his name (less for him to be sqirmey about!).
Post # 6
That sounds great! It would be a great journey for you to embark on together. Not to deter you but rather to prepare you, do investigate however the logistics of changing to a new name entirely for both of you. This can be complicated depending on what state you live in. Some states have procedures for only the bride to change and the groom must get a court order, and other states will let either or both of you change, but only to one of your current last names or a combination thereof (like hyphenation). Depending on how close to the current name it is, you may both have to get a court order. Just fyi. But I really like the idea!
Post # 7
I think that’s great if you wish to do that.
I am divorced, but I chose to hyphenate my last name.
As a mother also, I can say that there are advantages of having your spouse’s last name connected with yours. Such as with identifying parent and child and it’s easier for the teachers. Plus it’s the way lineage is traced if you have both names or take the last name of your H.
I will be taking my fiance’s last name however this time and hyphenating with my maiden name.
I’m a very independent female and never felt owned by anybody, nor do I have any friends who said they felt "owned". Taking the man I love’s last name is fine with me. I also choose to carry the last name of my father though, who was a wonderful man.
Post # 8
We highly considered it but he’s the only male in the last line of his father’s namesake — it’s bad enough we’re not making it clear to his father we’re not having kids. The name isn’t so bad so we’re keeping it to keep out our own guilt.
But if you two want to start a new life together I think it’s fine – it’s even better that you’re considering reverting back to an older version of the name. I think it’s a wonderful decision.
Post # 9
My new last name is going to be George…I wish he’d want to create a new one!
Post # 10
I think it’s cool that you are going back to what is supposed to be his original last name…bringing the true family name back!
@emilybrooke: I think George is a cool last name! You know people will be able to pronounce it and if you have kids and want to be really mean you can name them George George, jk. But, I do think it’s cool to have a man’s name as a last name e.g. Bob Dylan
Post # 11
Go for it! I had friends with the last names of Karr and Marshall, they fit together perfectly into Karrmarshall 🙂 Mine and my fiance’s don’t do anything so fancy as that … it’d be 17 letters! I also have family friends who took part of each other’s names and made them into a new last name. I think it’s really neat, symbolic of who you were and who you now are together.
Post # 12
I think it is a great idea, especially becasue it will have meaning. A former boss of mine did this. He got married just before I started working there and his company email used his old last name so I had to ask. Aparently he and his wife didn’t like their current last names so they chose a new one together and it was simple, easy to pronounce (his old name was a mouthful) and theirs, their new daughter also has the new last name. I thought it was a great idea but Fiance is also the only male in his family and wants to pass along his last name and there is no way we could combine two 10-letter names!
Post # 13
That’s a beautiful idea and pays homage to his ancestors. Go for it! My FH is Spanish and in Spain the custom is that the wife keeps her name and our children would have first his last name and then on the end mine (which would eventually be lost with my grandchildren). It’s funny bc I used to feel jealous that I couldn’t keep my last name when I lived in the USA, but now that I know I’ll marry a Spaniard I almost wish I could take on his name. Isn’t that strange? Anyway, I know my Rivera family will be so please that I’ll keep my name!