Post # 1
You guys….I just said my full name with my FIs last name and I SOUND LIKE AN OLD BRITISH MAN. If I got an email from [email protected] I would assume Im getting information on the Cambridge alumni society or something. For clarification, I am a female in her twenties. My first name is a boys name and my potential new last name is so lovely, but it sounds ridiculous. I guess my current last name is more feminine? Its not really, but Im used to it. I was kind of stoked on changing my name, but hadn’t said it out loud before. Did anyone ever not love their new name? Did you learn to love it? Or just keep your old name?
Ps. This is not intended to offend the elderly or the British.
Post # 2
I thought my first name sounded better with my maiden name than with my husband’s last name, but after I heard it a few times, I just got used to it. Pretty soon it will be your norm, and it will seem cool. Names are just different words put together.
Post # 3
Ziggy2112 : I just wanted to say that I LOL’d at your p.s.
And when I was married, for the first 8-9 months, I’d accidentally introduce myself by my maiden name and have to correct myself – which made me feel like an idiot who didn’t know her own name. Worse than that was that I couldn’t spell it correctly. When asked to spell it, I’d automatically swap the letters because it was more familiar format- example: “Bingham” as the last name but I would have said B-I-G…N-A…. wait. Because “big” is a word but bin isn’t. (Well, it’s a word but not one I use/spell often).
Post # 4
Made me think of this OP. Surely it is not this bad.
Post # 5
theatrejulia : haha! Im just in a mood because my mother and future husband were killing themselves laughing at it.
Post # 6
Your PS made me LOL!
I think I actually prefer my H’s last name (which I took, but haven’t had the opportunity to use yet), even though I didn’t think I’d like my two-syllable first name with a two-syllable last name (maiden was three syllables). I’m sure you’ll get used to it, though!
Also, I’m SO curious what your name will be haha.
Post # 7
farmfreshjoy : I so wish I could post it, but need to keep some dignity! Lets just say its similar to the UK counties ending in -shire, ie Bedordshire, Northamptonshire… I think Ill get used to it eventually, it wouldnt be notable at all if I had a girl’s first name.
Post # 8
Ziggy2112 : I think you’ll sound classy! 🙂 I had a coworker joke that he was now going to call me Lady NewLastName because my new name is more “regal” than my old one. Roll with it!
Post # 9
I know, it’s Reginald Rutland isn’t it ? Or Alfred Derby? (that’s pronounced Darby btw , for non- UK persons lol)
Post # 10
Well you don’t have to take his name. You can keep your own socially or legally. You can hyphen or have two last names. He could also take yours. Taking his last name isn’t your only option, especially if you don’t like his.
Post # 11
I think my first name sounds better with my maiden lastname, but I’m hoping I’ll get used to his 😣
Post # 12
Ziggy2112 : my new surname is very anglo/English sounding. Its a common one like smith, brown…
I’m olive skinned with curly brown hair and dark eyes. My parents are Italian ….I look Italian…. My new surname looks blonde haired with a peaches and cream complexion. I don’t match my new surname. People hear my name look at me and go huh??? It just feels weird….I was very used to my old very Italian surname!! I matched. I was unique. Nobody else in Oz had my name. Now I’m one of many…. 😉
I feel you OP.
Does anyone else still F*CK up and write their old name or use their old signature on forms??? I do it more often than I care to admit. Maybe Im subconsciously rebelling??!!
Haha this thread made me think of my friend. Tge combination of my best friends first name and new surname sounds like a name for a pretentious pompous law firm. She was going to hyphenate her maiden name with it but it sounded worse. Her new nickname is Judge and QC. Her hubby abswers their home phone and pretends its a barrister and solicitor’s office. we’ve all finally cottoned on…but he sure as hell confuses telemarketers! 🙂
Post # 13
My first.last name are super common, I am one of the masses and I can blend in. My new last name is incredibly rare, due to a misspelling when my Future Father-In-Law immigrated. On top of that, my first name plus his last name is not used anywhere so I am afraid of being the only one in the whole world with my name! Ah! What if my students find me 🙁
I also came to the realization the other day that I would need a new signature! That’s crazy!! I don’t know why it suddenly struck me, logically I knew but I don’t think I really knew.
Post # 14
Ziggy2112 : I’m having a hard time with mine. My new last name is super long, I don’t know how to pronounce it and it took me awhile to learn to spell it. But I love him and we’re having kids, so hopefully I’ll figure it out before then.
Post # 15
My full first name works well with my married surname, but the shorter version I use all the time can sounds a bit wrong. It tends to lead to people thinking I’m called Lesley ….