(Closed) New LDR- tips on the painful goodbye? Please help!

posted 9 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015 - north bay

you could see eachother on webcam?

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My Fiance and I are 4000 miles apart and with our schedules, it is months before we see each.

The first time we said good bye was at his deployment lunch where he was leaving for 6 months on a submarine and we knew communication would be sparse to nonexistent. 

A family friend of his who retired from 20 years in Special Ops with the Army told me a secret that I’ll share with you.  It never gets easier to say goodbye.  A year and a half later, I’ll say he is definitely right. 

I will say if I walk away from him, and don’t look back, it isn’t as hard then if I watch him walk away from me.  But it’ll never be easy.

For the time spent apart, communication is key.  Talk, email, and text every chance. A LDR can bring you CLOSER.  It did in my relationship. 

Hope I didn’t depress you!  But LDR and goodbyes are manageable and you can do it! Good luck!

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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I know it’s tough but try to set times where you talk during the week.  That way you have some communication to look forward to.  Also, try to keep yourself busy the rest of the time so you aren’t sitting around staring at a wall in a dark room.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Make it short! Thats what people tell me anyway… maybe doesnt help all that much. But yes, skype is your friend. (except its technical glitches)

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

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@beebee89: Totally agree!  When DH left for the military, we kept it short and sweet. The longer and more drawn out it is, the harder it is, at least for me.

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