Post # 1
I’ve thought about making this post for the past month. My SO and I have been talking proposals a little over a year and were supposed to have already been engaged around April. The timeline is forever shifting backwards and with some new talks we’ve had I’m starting to realized it isn’t going to be anytime in the somewhat near future at all. So after all the heartbreak of expecting a proposal and being disappointed, I’ve decided I am no longer waiting. I am giving up the bee and am moving on.
Sorry to have to leave, but I know it is what is best 🙁
If the new list keeper could give me their email.. I’ll send my word Doc.
Post # 2
Hey I’ll be happy to do it. Unless there is another bee who would prefer to. I’m waiting for a bit on a firm timeline so I can do it for quite some time if needed. Or if there’s another bee who knows their engagement is coming sooner and would like a turn.
Post # 5
Im so sorry to hear that but you are not alone. I myself am sort of in the same boat with a ”moving” timeline and some talks that leave me feeling indifferent about a proposal at the end also. This is our time to focus on ourselves and making us better, healthier, wiser, and HAPPIER. Everything will be ok!
Post # 7
So sorry to hear this 🙁 Wishing you all the best. I know a wedding site might not be the best place for you right now but do please reach out to the bees if you need support. We’ve all been there. <3
Post # 8
Oh no! I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I hope all works out for you! Best of luck 😢
Post # 9
Been there once, realising I am not getting engaged in at least 5 next years broke my heart. Since there was one aditional significant issue, I have left him.
That was three years ago, and only recently I stopped feeling wretched when thinking about it, now I’m just sad for the time I have waisted on someone who wasn’t really in love with me as much as he said he was.
In a short time, I have met a great guy who loves me dearly, but never rushes anything – meaning every decision takes him couple of years – took him 7 years to buy his own place and move out from his parents – and I think if I didn’t have an argument about it with him, he would still hang in his childhood bedroom. It’s been over a year since we moved in together, I have hit thirty… and he’s still taking his sweet time. I have given up waiting for guys. I choose not to marry a guy has let me wait for too long (more than two years after moving in together or 3 years of relationship in total is too long for someone my age, my personal opinion). I will not leave him, since I have no other reason to. But I won’t marry him if this doesn’t happen within next few months.
I’m done, I’m finally done, and I don’t feel bitter about this, I feel like a heavy burden fell of my chest.
Post # 10
What I wanted to say, I know how you feel. I really hope your man will come to his sense and start seeing your values for what they are – a gift for the two of you. And if that doesn’t happen, I really hope you will find peace.
Post # 11
Sorry to hear that Bee. Hope to see you back one day soon in a happier context
Post # 12
Thanks for all the love and support! I’ve done a lot of thinking and I know this is the right choice for me. Lately I haven’t been able to enjoy anything my SO does for me because I’m just too busy worrying about if he will propose. It’s made me bitter and angry and nothing like the fun loving person I used to be before I got it into my head that I had to get engaged for our relationship to mean something. We have a great relationship and I know he wants to be married, and I also know he wants it to be a surprise ( and that I don’t want him to propose because I have been pouting). So I just don’t think the bee is right for me… I’ve just become to obsessive about being engaged.
(And Dani if you want to DM me your email, I can send the list)
Post # 13
Sent you a DM. Have a big hug from all of us here. It will get better, focus on your relationship, it sounds like you guys are pretty solid and have lots of great plans for the future.
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2020 - Windermere, Cumbria
So sorry bee, hope to see you back one day soon.