New LIW – he has the ring, I'm going nuts

posted 2 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
610 posts
Busy bee

I feel you! Mine had it for 2 months before proposing. He didn’t know I knew for sure it was here but I did. At first it drove me crazy but then I figured he was waiting till my birthday, which he did, he proposed the day before. But I guess for you it could come at any time since nothing is coming up! I understand the impatience though when you know it’s in the house somewhere! 

Post # 3
366 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

Hang in there! 🙂

My then SO had it for over 7 months before he proposed. It was hard at the beginning but after awhile, it was much easier to handle.

Stay strong and try not to pressure him by constantly asking! 🙂

Post # 4
9682 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

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laurenalaine83 :  

 He’s told me he’s waiting for a chance to do it. This makes no sense to me at all , you  have full,  busy,  adult ,sensible ,conjoined  lives where planning is commonplace.

It takes  about 20 seconds  to propose   and even less to grab that ring and put it on  once he has done so!   Tell him you’ve changed  your mind about waiting for some ‘moment’  . 

 “he did say that the nagging didn’t help. I expressed that I didn’t believe he had any plans for proposing to me. ” And what did he say to this very reasonable concern you expressed ?  

If there is one thing that makes me cross, it is the use of the word ‘nag’ ( or its slightly less crude version , ‘pressure’ ) when women  ask  about their joint future !!! 

Post # 5
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2019 - California

He sounds sincere. Mine had the ring for 5 months and I knew about it the whole time too. He was waiting for a moment that “felt right” to him. It took a while and it happened in our living room on the couch lol. Because it was really important to him to surprise me and I’m hard to suprise. He knew if he planned a vacation I’d be onto him. He proposed just 3 days ago! I’m sure it’ll happen soon but I would just ask him to give you a general time frame, like maybe what quarter of what year. 

Post # 7
460 posts
Helper bee

He has the ring. You have plans to join your households in 2019. 

Honestly it sounds like you’re trying to control it – just relax. Breathe and let him take his time. If in a few months it still hasn’t happened, maybe revisit the conversation with him, but for now I would leave it alone. 

Post # 8
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: Covington, KY

I can relate. My boyfriend has the ring and I am anxious and getting impatient. But I know it is coming before August. Maybe you should talk to your boyfriend about setting a date for it? 

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