(Closed) New Marriage and Money Trust Issues

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

Red Flag #1: You are married but do not live together.

Red Flag #2: You don’t have access to ANY billing/bank informaiton that is needed.

Red Flag #3: No paycheck coming from him.

One, sorry girl but you need to get your own account and deposit your checks into them, SEPERATE from his. Lord there is just so much wrong with this it would take too long to write. Lots of red flags, ALL over this post.

Post # 3
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969 - City, State

I would divorce him.  Period.  I called off an engagement very close to the wedding when I found out he was pulling the exact same shit that your husband is.  This is a deal breaker for me.  

Post # 4
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think that the problem goes deeper then mismanaging money if that much is somehow gone each month, unless he has a secret account somewhere.  This screams addiction to me.  Something is taking up that money each month.  Does he come home with a lot of new stuff?

Post # 6
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Step number one is opening a seperate account (that he does not have access to) and having your paycheck deposited there.

Post # 8
1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

time to google your “mike”  🙁

Try a husband scammer website. Sorry Bee, that is about the best I can tell you.

(no money, no new stuff… doesn’t look good)


  • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  Shesaidyes.
Post # 9
4242 posts
Honey bee

Open up a new account ASAP, and deposit your money there.

Whose name is on all the bills? 

Do you still have a copy of the fake account statement he gave you? 

Post # 10
6845 posts
Busy Beekeeper

halloween12345:  He sounds like my ex-husband. If your name is on any of these accounts contact the helplines at the companies and ask to reset your password. 

Where are his paychecks going? If he can’t honestly answer and show you where the money has gone then I’m sorry, but this probably isn’t a marriage worth saving. After three missed mortgage payments the bank may be taking action toward foreclosure–you need to have some serious conversations with your lender to find out what your options are.

So sorry, Bee. Do what you need to do to protect yourself.

Post # 11
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Oh god, this is terrible. This is a level of deception that I’m not sure you should try to get past. I’m so sorry, bee.

Post # 12
161 posts
Blushing bee

Exactly what Shesaidyes said…where is the money going? Has he been pretending to go to work or is he keeping the money he earns from you? 

It’s unfortunate you weren’t able to get to know each other’s finances better before getting married. People can only change if they want to change themselves. You will not be able to change his spending habits (or whatever he does with all the money), how he handles the bills, responsibilities, etc.

Is this how you want to live out the rest of your life? What happens if he never changes? Have a serious talk with him, it seems like he has a lot of issues and you’re going to want to get off that sinking ship ASAP.

Post # 14
161 posts
Blushing bee

PS. If he is able to present to you doctored statements, what else is he capable of? 

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