(Closed) New Marriage and Money Trust Issues

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Blushing bee

halloween12345:  What about the doctored statement he presented you of how much was in your account? What else is this man capable of? What else has he lied to you about over the past 6 years?

Post # 33
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Busy Beekeeper

lisianthus:  Both signatures are typically required to close a joint account. 

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

#helltotheno

Something is definitely going on with your husband whether you want to believe it or not . doctoring statements, not having his money deposited into the account  and not letting you have access to the account is very shady behavior. I can’t stand liars!!!! I agree you need to get your own account and then confront him if he continues with his lies, go see a lawyer to see how you can protect you.

Post # 35
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Honey bee

halloween12345:  

Please do this: call a trusted family member or friend and tell them to come check on you if they don’t hear from you by X o’clock this evening. Seriously. I don’t mean to sound harsh or paranoid, but consider this a potentially dangerous situation that requires a buddy. Like cleaning your roof/gutters alone. You want someone somewhere to know when it’s too late for you to check in. Okay?

Best wishes as you talk with your husband this evening. You can do this.

 

Post # 36
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Honey bee

beethree:  

Actually, most joint accounts can be drained/closed by one party. Even joint title on vehicles. A deed can’t be transacted without both signatures (usually).

Post # 37
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

halloween12345:  you can’t always tell.  I didn’t know an ex was a pill popper until a year after he moved in.  Addicts are really good at hiding their addictions. 

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

beethree:  I assume she could take her name off of it if it were in the black, no necessarily close it.  i would be afraid of him continuing to overdraft the account and ruining her credit/racking up fees. 

Post # 39
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Worker bee

NFLwidow:  Yes! She needs someone to check on her- great advice.

 

OP- I’m worried for you and I think there’s a lot you don’t know about 🙁 Please be careful! 

Can you freeze the joint bank account so it doesn’t go further in the red?

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  sweetiepetey.
Post # 40
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Helper bee

halloween12345:  I agree with other posters. He has already done serious damage to your fiances. I would divorce him immediately before it gets worse. The fact that he changed your passwords, lied to you and doctored a bank statement makes me wonder what else he is capable of.

Post # 41
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Bumble Beekeeper

The man doctored a fake bank statement and you’re going to believe that a text message he showed you from his “new boss” is legit??

This all sounds so, so bad. Like Hollywood bad. Please take care of yourself. 

Post # 42
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Busy Beekeeper

NFLwidow:  sweetiepetey:  I wasn’t allowed to close the joint account I had with my ex without his participation/agreement. I’m sure different banks/states have different policies. I just stopped putting money into it and eventually the bank closed it due to inactivity/no balance.

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper

NFLwidow:  I agree–OP please let someone close to you know what is going on. There is just too much about this that is shady. 

Post # 44
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

halloween12345:  Quietly gather evidence, put it somewhere safe, file for divorce, and at the same time get a financial restraining order.  And stay safe.  

Post # 45
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Sugar bee

halloween12345:  Hey, OP, please check back in later tonight to let us know you are safe. We are worried about you. The level of deceit “Mike” has exhibited goes far, far, far beyond simply mismanaging money. Please take care of yourself and let the Bees know if you need any help.

Also, definately follow the PP’s advice and let someone close to you know what is going on.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 8 months ago by  SLOBee.

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