(Closed) New member! Desperate and waiting! Tick tock

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
314 posts
Helper bee

@Bettyboo1982:  Awww! I could just hug you!

Welcome to the Bee. You are going to definitely find this site to be supportive of A LOT that you will go through while waiting. I found this site earlier this year, and its helped me out so much.

So, did you ever ask him WHY he feels he isn’t ready? And why he has set a timeline of two years? It seems like he’s trying to get tan idea of the things you’ll like and make sure that you’ll actually say yes before the real deal happens. I mean, he IS 33. He can’t say he isn’t ready after two years and being that age. LOL That’s just not LEGIT. 🙂

Post # 5
210 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013



Welcome too the Bee! I too found this site earlier this year and it really helped me a ton when I was in the waiting period!!! Good luck to you!!!

Post # 7
13 posts

@Bettyboo1982:  im in the exact same situation. Just had my birthday and he gave me MULTIPLE hints all week of my present. All of which sounded like a ring. He even said my present comes in a really small box. I was beyond let down and could not hide my emotions. He constantly talks about how next year we are buying a house and getting married however, i dont have a ring. He says hes ready but wants to do it on his time not just because I want it. I am so sick of waiting and being hurt by his trickery. He knows how much I want it and how we need time to plan our destination wedding (we already decided on the island) but it just seems he doesn’t want to make me happy. Kinda lost

Post # 9
89 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Welcome @Bettyboo1982 !

I too am somewhat of a newbie and I’m going through the EXACT same thing…

My SO is a terrible secret keeper and has on numerous occasions dropped hints and then nothing happens… it’s one of the most frustrating things I have ever experienced.  I am so beyond ready for the next step in my life which is to get engaged and get married but he keeps pushing it off due to not having the money to afford the ring etc…  I have given him tons of options for alternative rings as that is not the reason I am wanting to move things along.. I simply want to start my life with him.

Its something I was very upfront with in the beginning out our relationship and I feel the same when you say ‘cheated’… I feel like anything he says about getting married are empty words…

He’s hinted that this summer will be when it happens (terrible that he can’t keep his mouth shut, I know).. but a big part of me wonders if summer will come and go and nothing will happen..


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