Post # 1
I took my husband’s last name when we got married. It’s only been a couple of weeks, so I’m having some difficulty actually remembering my name when people ask me for it! I have to think about what I’m writing when I sign my name. I’m waiting on my new debit card to arrive, so when I sign receipts now and they have the name from the card printed, I automatically start signing my maiden name and have to add my new last name at the end. I briefly considered hyphenating just because of that.
My driver’s license has already been changed, so it doesn’t match the name on the card either. And I swear I’ve had more people actually read the “please check ID” that I wrote next to my signature than ever before. I’ve started showing people my college ID because it still has my old name.
Post # 3
I still carry around a copy of my marriage license with me. It took me quite a a while to get used to signing my new name and still occasionally screw up. I do still use my maiden name for my political work, working in it for more than twenty years people have no idea who I am when I come up on a list so I find it easier to just use the maiden when dealing with political stuff.
Post # 4
I think people understand when it’s fairly recent. I actually ordered something online to pick up in the store the other day and used my maiden name without thinking. I went to pick it up and they couldn’t find it and I was kind of annoyed. I then asked them to look under my old name… there it was! Oops!
Post # 5
I think people definitely understand when it is recent. Also, some people just can’t get it right. My pharmacy just could not get my prescription changed to the correct name for nearly a year! I would ask them to update it every time I picked it up, and each time I would go in to pick up a refill, I would ask for it in my married name but they would have printed it in my maiden name. The best was that they ended up listing it as First Name (Married Name) Maiden Name, so it was still getting filed under my maiden! I finally switched to a different pharmacy. You’d think I wasn’t the first person who attempted to change a name though!!
Post # 6
This is normal, it takes time to get used a new last name when you have had your old one all your life! I still on occasion write my maiden name