- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I dont want to bring this up with my Fiance so he wont get mad and/or thinks its a lame idea.. so ill run it by the hive and see what you ladies think..mmkay? <3
Well heres the background of this lovely story- being that me and my Fiance are right now in to two different countries and cultures- wev been having a hard time figuring out where we would do a wedding because of coruse we want both our families to be there. he has a humongoussss familyyyyy but because my family is very traditional oriented( as well as he is ) my dad doesnt believe as a girl, i should leave from where I am unless I have a wedding for the family and my mom is like very stubborn about having a wedding as well. My Fiance has been super nice and cooperative about it — he understands where my fam is coming from but feels bad that he might not be able to throw his family a wedding either back in the states. We discussed having my family travel there for a wedding there but it wont work because of finances- it wil be TO much ffor just tickets on its own.. And he decided to bring only his mom and sister to attend the wedding here. I feel really sad about it because he would rather have a wedding for his fam so everyone can attend..he has asked me if we can have a small party– and then have a party over there too so that way ” it would be fair” but my family isnt really up to a party. It does seem very selfish of them, but sometimes I do see it from their perspective. Im the oldest daughter, they want to have a wedding even if its small for me so they can celebrate and since im leaving them and moving with my Fiance, its something I can give them.. right? ( Oh and P.s we did talk about two weddings, but he wont be able to afford two weddings.. not even one because him coming here and the expenses here will be quite a lot ) Oh and also, his Uncle has this huge house with this ENORMOUS Backyard and gazibo, its so romanticcccc and huge and his aunt once told him that if he ever wnted to use it for the wedding shed be more then happy to let us use it.
anyway, the reason Im here now is because Ive thought of an awesome idea but im not sure if I should bringit up with him or not. Ive discussed with my family how I want a small wedding- a very small wedding ( smaller venue and everything ) and I found a really good place to- for less then half of what we wre going to pay originally for that comes with the buffet, cake and everything ( Yay!) Now I was thinking that maybe we can throw this wedding ” Party” for my folks and he can just come alone- save the money for the tickets he wiuld have to pay for his sis and mom– and when we leave from here we can have a wedding over there for his family — in his Uncles backyard. We can invite all the people he loves, open buffet- decorations and u kno all the good stuff.. That way both families are happy and satisifed? Do you think thats a little silly of me to ask? To complicated? Immature? I dont know, give me your thoughts ladies. Im up for ideas and suggestions. Would it be weird if I asked him to ask his uncle for his place, ( they have a really good bond of course.. )
Ok! Sorry that its long but yay, Im a little excited cuz I think its a cool idea but I hope that it doesnt backlash! haha.