Post # 1
I feel like all I do is post about my ring problems!
My story – Fi picked out a beautiful pave ring for me. It’s a pretty unique design. In about 2 months time, I lost 4 little side diamonds.
We went back to the jeweler and the owner was very nice and said he had been having problems with this particular line of mountings (it’s not from a big designer; I cannot even find a website for them). He offered to give us a store credit. Fi and I both liked the design of my ring so much we agreed to let the jeweler replicate it.
The goldsmith said he doesn’t feel comfortable replicating the setting exactly as there is so little metal in the original that if he makes it that thin, the diamonds will just continue to fall out. The look of very little metal is one of the things I like about the setting. They’ve tried tweaking the wax a bit, first by making the setting shared prong instead of pave, then by having each side diamond set with 4 prongs. Both options, which I saw, were way bulkier than I would like (yes, I realize the wax is bulkier than the finished product) and even the owner and goldsmith both agreed that they wouldn’t be happy with either option.
So here’s my alternatives:
1. Pick out a completely different setting – something we probably should have done the first time. This one kind of saddens me because it’s not the ring FI picked, and I really do love my original ring.
2. Take a chance and order another setting from the original designer and hope I don’t get another lemon.
3. Have them custom make a similar type setting, maybe without so many swirls.
What would you do? We have to work with this particular jeweler as he only gives store credit, no cash refunds – a policy FI didn’t know about when he bought my ring there.
Here’s a picture of my ring before the diamonds started falling out.
Because of all the detail, I can see why making the setting thicker would be very hard and take away from the ring.
Post # 3
Option 1 or 3. I know it sucks bc it’s not the exact one that your fiancé picked out, but you’re having too many problems with the one your fiancé picked out. And it sounds like it’s not the company, but the design. Since you are lucky enough to have the option to get something else that won’t have the problems, you should. If you get the same one again, you may not have the choice to opt out of it again. Be thankful that you were given a choice, ya know?! If you choose option 1 then just pick it out with your fiancé. Either way though, it’s still going to be your engagement ring from your fiancé. I think that people put too much emotion into a piece of metal. And I might feel this way bc I’m not in your situation, so I apologize if I’m not truly understanding what you’re going through.
Post # 4
@Peanut-Sue: I’m usually not emotionally tied to material things, so it is very unlike me to be this attached to my original ring. No need to apologize. I don’t know why I’m having so much trouble thinking of something else. FI wants me to pick it out because he’s afraid he screwed up the first time – which of course I keep telling him he didn’t!
Post # 5
@ButterflyButterfly: Awwww poor guy 🙁 he obviously didn’t screw up bc you love it soooo much that you can’t wrap your head around the idea of a different ring. It’s just a crappy situation & I’m sorry that you’re in it. I hope everything works out well for you. And, I’d like to see the final result 🙂
Post # 6
@ButterflyButterfly: I guess I’m pretty attached to the piece of metal on my finger so what am I even saying!. I wouldn’t turn down the option for an upgrade though lol 🙂
Post # 7
I feel for you. I’m going through almost the exact same thing right now And just posted about it! My ring is a halo split shank with pave side stones that looks just as delicate as yours (exactly the reason I love mine also). My first ring I had resized (down one half size) and had similar issues with constantly loose/missing stones. The store reordered it in my size, but the halo is crooked! Ordered a third time and still crooked. It seems as though the mold they are using in my size is defective. So im considering the same options as you. Either try to order it again with fingers crossed, have the store custom make the same design (more expensive) or pick a whole new set all together. I’m leaning towards a new set which is sad because we picked out the first set together and it was exactly what I wanted. Good luck with your decision!!!
Post # 8
I just read a post you made on another board where you said you had your ring sized. Pave does NOT like to be sized, especially down. If you really love your ring, see if your jeweler can order it in your size. Since I had mine ordered in my size, I’ve had zero loose/missing stones. I just have other problems lol.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2014 - A castle
@ButterflyButterfly: I had the same problem with my first setting, and it held pave similar to yours, I’m guessing. I have 4 prong pave now because I was too paranoid for anything else. Although it looked pretty bulky in CADs I think it still looks pretty delicate now.
Post # 10
I would just get a whole new setting so I didn’t have to worry about it anymore!
Post # 11
@ButterflyButterfly: I think it depends on what kind of person you are:
if you’re absolutely in love with that setting, are you OK with going back for repairs often– knowing that somewhere down the line YOU might be responsible for them– or that if they happen enough, the jeweler might eventually require to order abother setting– as I imagine repair after repair and replacing diamonds could truly get costly for the jeweler– especially when it’s a setting they know they’re having problems with.
Because if the idea of many repairs doesn’t sound appealing to you– I might start to look at other settings.
I have bezel set solitare. I love my ring– soooooo much. And a huge part of the reason I chose it is because I decided I’d rather have something maitenance free– vs making the jeweler my second home. And I know that the minute I noticed a stone missing, I’d want to get it repaired immediately– I’d never be OK wearing it unless it was “complete”– but that’s just me.
I’m not suggesting that you get a bezel setting– but that you reconsider the design of your ring, and then figure out what you’re going to be OK with down the road. When a ring is so delicate (a wedding related ring, especially)- that it can’t be worn with daily “regular” use– and no, I’m suggesting you should be able to beat the crap out of your ring– but wear it as you use your hands for “normal” daily tasks– anyway, I don’t see the point in owning a ring you have to take off more than you wear, unless it’s a cocktail ring or such.
There was a design that wasn’t bezel set that I was kind of in love with– but I switched my mind back to bezel and am very thankful I did!!
Post # 12
@ButterflyButterfly: Hmm… I find it a little strange that the goldsmith isn’t comfortable making your ring with little metal showing. I have the exact same look, done in micro pave, shared prong settings. I have had zero issues with stones falling out. And you can’t see one speck of metal on mine.
Perhaps your jeweler has another goldsmith he can talk to?
Post # 13
I have a swirly kind of ring and I don’t have a lot of issue with stones coming out. He got it at JB Robinson (which is part of the Kay family- bleh). It doesn’t have a center stone (it’s four small princess cut diamonds put together to look like a regular one) but I’m sure if you bought/ provided a center stone, they would be happy to use that instead.
Post # 14
I have to agree with other posters. Before I saw a picture of the ring, I thought it would be WAY more intricate. It is beautiful though.
I dont have any advice except to agree that pave doesnt liked to be sized down. I had one of my diamonds fall out 4 times from my settings. That was 4 years ago ,and I havent had a problem since. So eventually the problem may fix itself if you were to stay with that design.
Post # 15
I JUST went through this same thing. I voted that pave is just not right for you. I had a very intricate designed ring like yours that the jewelers added metal to to prevent the stones from falling out. It changed the whole weight of the ring and look and I still had a stone try to come loose. We ended up exchanging it with a channel set ring that I actually LOVE. I almost hate pave now because while beautiful they just cause too much stress. Your wedding rings are supposed to be one thing non-stressful about life and getting married.
Post # 16
I thought I would update my own thread.
We went back to the jeweler and picked out a completely different setting. I was really close to ordering my same setting in the correct size, but I thought there will probably be a time where I would have to resize it down the line and didn’t want to deal with lost pave stones again.
I’ve seen a couple of Bees with this style. It’s pretty classic I think. It’s a cathedral setting with bead set sides. My FI said he had looked at that setting and thought I would think it was too boring! I really like it! It seems much more practical, plus it has a matching wedding band available.
Now I just need to wait for it to come in!