New Ring question

posted 2 months ago in Rings
Post # 2
4104 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Do you share finances? If so, will it really matter which one of you purchases it? I don’t think it matters either way, though. If you have the funds to buy your dream ring, then go for it.

Post # 3
517 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Hmmm…good question. How does he feel about it? Even if I paid for it, I would want it to be a joint decision (the ring itself.)

Post # 6
202 posts
Helper bee

Go ahead, if he’s ok with it and you can afford it, why not?

Post # 7
4904 posts
Honey bee

At this point it is no longer an engagement ring…He gave you the gift of a ring, he asked, you answered, it’s a done deal on a ship that sailed over five years ago.  At this point it is pretty jewelry – You’re allowed to buy yourself pretty jewelry as long as you can financially afford pretty jewelry.  It’s the great thing about being an adult – you get to decide whatever the hell you want with your money.

Post # 8
967 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’m pretty untraditional when it comes to this. I say buy it! Your original eRing will never lose its emotional value and symbol. And if you want to wear a bigger stone, then do as you please. Nobody would know anyway. Remember that some traditions are purely societal… 

I was engaged (twice) no longer am but I have beautiful moissanites and heirloom diamonds that I wear on my “ring finger”. And tbh I couldn’t care less what people think about the fact that I’m not engaged but it can look like I am… life is too short to worry about others’ opinions and if anyone criticize it’s about them not you. 

Post # 9
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

If you are both ok with getting it and can afford it, then get it. If you share the finances then whose to say who bought it.

Post # 10
10702 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

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As a pp said, it’s not an engagement ring, you already have one of those. So, there is nothing in the world to stop you buying a nice big ring and wearing it on your ring finger, you don’t really even need to run it by your husband since it is being bought with your own money. 
And it is nobody  else’s business who bought it , nor does it matter if people who don’t know you think it is your engagement ring .

Another pp said some traditions are societal, (well they all are of course) but in your case there isn’t really a tradition to worry about. So go for it. 

Post # 11
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Do what works for the two of you. It’s not like you’re going to walk around saying look at my upgrade I purchased for myself lol if he can’t make it happen right now and you don’t want to wait until he can and you’re both ok with you purchasing it then go for it bee! Goodluck!!

Post # 12
10 posts
  • Wedding: October 2006

If your both OK with it then go for it. 

Post # 13
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

I say go for it!  Technically, I ended up “buying” my wedding band.  I had my great grandma’s platinum wedding band with tiny diamonds in it.  I used the diamonds in my band and the value of the platinum and my mom and I turned in our old gold for store credit and ended up having enough to make my band and a necklace for my mom.  So technically, my husband didn’t purchase my band.  I am fine with it.  Technically, I didn’t purchase his either.  He used his dad’s band, just had it sized and polished.  

Post # 14
2094 posts
Buzzing bee

Girl, go ahead! You have the want, you have the funds, and you have his blessing. Do it! 

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