- 11 months ago
- Wedding: May 2018
Sorry if this is long, thank you for reading!
I have GAD and some other compounding issues and have been saying for a few years that I’d like to see a therapist/counselor to get some help working through them, as well as formulating some new coping techniques when I am anxious/having a hard time. I’d prefer not to go into the specifics right now, although if the specific subject matter makes a difference in the answer, please PM and I’ll explain more. However, the issues are not overly complex in my opinion (like schizophrenia, psychosis, eg.) but more run-of-the-mill issues – anxiety, fixating on worries, etc. (Sorry if that is insensitive or offensive, I’m just trying to explain without giving too many personal details).
Background: About a year ago, I made appointments with 2 therapists and didn’t really vibe with either one of them. One also was very far from my home and I didn’t see it working on a regular basis. Just adding this because I know it’s hard to find someone you click with.
Fast forward to a month ago, I decided to try again. I made 2 appointments with 2 more therapists, and had a much better experience. I did tons of research (through my insurance company and psychologytoday.com) and found two women. The first one I called and then saw. She was nice and seemed smart, but was a little bit “out there” for me, which was a little hard to relate to.
The second one I researched also seemed great, but in e-mail she said she is too busy to take on new clients (especially because my schedule is very inconsistent for work) but that she would recommend one of the people in her practice. She forwarded me her bio which I read, and I responded that I was concerned because I’d found her (the original woman) specifically for her experience and certifications, and that I was wary to try someone “random.” She assured me via email that her partner was excellent, experienced, and “looking forward to working with me.” I met with her, but was skeptical, since she wasn’t the person I’d researched and found. However, she seemed perfect! She was sweet, understanding, and easy to talk to. I felt that we clicked. Yay!
So what’s the problem? Well, after 2 sessions, I decided to google her (which I know I should’ve done off the bat) and saw that she is 3 years younger than me! Also, she graduated from MSW school in May 2018! She has very little experience! She did work in the mental health field after college before MSW school (for maybe 3 years?), and went to a very good and reputable school. Like top 5 MSW program in the country. But now I’m scared that I’m her guinea pig as she’s barely done this independently before.
Here are my conflicting thoughts: on the one hand, I like her very much, my issues aren’t that “serious,” she has an excellent education, she’s trained, and I am an adult and obviously don’t have to take her word as gospel. Darling Husband is in this camp. On the other hand: she’s brand new in the field! What if she leads me down a bad path? My mom is in this camp. She says I am likely one of her first private patients ever, and she’s too inexperienced. She also has never been married, never had kids, never really been a full-fledged adult! How can she give me marriage advice!? Some of the things she says are a bit naive and I can see this coming through. My mom, married for 35 years, gave me an alternate perspective on this marriage advice that made a lot more sense, was a lot less “green,” and more mature IMO.
So, SW bees: is this ok?? Did you feel qualified and competent to have a private patient after 3 months of graduating school? Would you recommend I keep looking for someone more experienced?
Other bees: have you ever seen a brand new therapist? Was his/her advice solid? Have you had better experiences with more senior therapists??
What should I dooooooo???
Thanks In Advance 🙂 Sorry it was a tad long!