Post # 1
Hey ladies! So I’m new to the board. And I have somewhat of a dilemma. Long.. so please bear with… So, I have decided that I want to do my wedding for $3000. I know that sounds low and like an impossible task. My plan is to make every effort to have the wedding we want for much less than most people. But I don’t want a “cheap” wedding. I want it to be hard for someone to believe it cost only 3000 dollars. I believe its very doable if I start early and make the effort. However, no one thinks I can do it. Not even my fiancé. So its very discouraging when no one wants to give me a chance at it. If I cant, okay we’ll do what we have to do. But why not give me the chance first! It’s so frustrating. I’ve searched and searched for a venue. Everything is so expensive. Finally I found a place (after prayer). Well, actually I found 3 in one day. They’re all in my price range, perfect size and very nice. One is a ballroom, seats 175, nice hardwood floors, one side wall has the large window, and outside its beautifully landscaped and perfect for pictures. $300 for 8 hours. I can use my caterer or theirs. It also comes with tables/chairs. The 2nd place is $200 for 4 hrs, $50 for each additional hr over. And the 3rd place is just $40 an hour. I found it cheap because I stopped searching for “event/wedding/banquet/reception halls”. Which I found to be synonymous with overly priced/rip off/ greedy etc.. I found a beautiful centerpiece idea (using wine glasses) and the supplies to put it together can be found at the dollar store. My boss’ wife has a degree in photography but she’s in school for nursing. She does side work only, so I may use her as my photographer because she’s a professional who doesn’t charge as much. Also, my cousin is a photographer as well. I found a dress at David’s Bridal for 200. I loved it. My next job is to tackle catering. But I’ll figure that out to. With my venue being so affordable catering wont be so difficult. Where there’s a will there is a way. Lol. Because no one believes I can do it its now a challenge for me. And I will succeed! I’m very excited. I have a year, (I’ve just started). So I’m starting early because it gives me more than enough time to find deals/ sales, more hookups from people etc. But does anyone see anything wrong with trying to do this? My fiancé and his mom keep telling me I wont be able to do it. It’s not possible. My expectations for the wedding are low etc…. Which isn’t true. I don’t plan to compromise one bit on quality. When we get our apartment (I’m not ready to buy a house because I don’t know where I want to live yet.) I want our place to be fully furnished, I don’t want a small couch and a mattress on the floor. Lol. I could never spend thousands on a wedding and not have my home in order. So we cant spend all our money on one thing. I believe in living within your means. And also, we have already agreed we’ll never use credit. So this wedding will be cash only. So, they told me I’m stressing, and his mom is like I need to chill out until we’re engaged. Well, we already are! We have a date and everything. His parents are telling people the wedding is next year. Only thing is I’m waiting on my ring. And this is because he was laid off most of last year and just found a job and now he’s getting things on track. The ring doesn’t make the engagement. Some people are married and never have had rings. Some wives have lost theirs, does that mean they’re not married now? Lol. Silly. So since they think I should wait I’m going to continue on without them. And whenever they decide to jump in ok… but I cant afford to waste time. The sooner I start the better. Anyway What do you guys think of all this??? Do you think it’s possible? What’s your opinions. Cant wait to hear! No support in fam so I came here… lol. Happy Wedding Planning!!!
Post # 4
I think it’s an awesome goal and I hope you make it! One question – why are you discussing your budget with so many people? That’s the one wedding-related detail that we’re not sharing with anybody. I say, just do your thing, have the wedding of your dreams, and leave everyone out of your budget.
Post # 5
You can certainly do it if you have that goal in mind and look for deals/friendors/etc! Go for it! Nothing wrong with wanting to save money
Post # 6
I just got engaged yesterday and like you will probably have to wait a little while for a ring! $3000 is totally do-able, that’s my goal too (though since mine will be 50% destination is might be more unless I have help)
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Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
This can be done- two things that could wreck havoc with your budget- catering and the guest list.
If your venue doesn’t have a kitchen, you need to find a caterer that can cook on site. (Since you want quality, I would be concerned about caterers who cook and bring in on warming trucks) So sit down plated dinner might be out.
But- that depends on your guest list. Are you inviting 50 people or 150? To keep your guest list under control, I advise figuring out the number- let’s say 100. That’s 25 people each for you and Fiance, 25 for each of your families. Or split 50/50. Either way- no, people are not allowed to over invite, and you have to be FIRM on this.
I also agree with sportsgal31- keep your budget/costs to you and FI- no one else’s business (unless someone is contributing, then it’s ok to share some of the cost info)
Post # 8
Oh for sure, you can definitely do that if you keep the guest list small & hunt for deals.
Post # 9
Its possible but it depends on what you are and arent’ willing to give up… IE… are you serving alcohol, do you want a full meal or just appetizers only, how many people are you having, dj or ipod?, Wedding night hotel room, transportation, rings, honeymoon, etc., all things that sent my 5k budget soaring. now i’m just hoping to do it for under 10.
For us we couldn’t budge on alcohol or a full meal, So for us its gonna be atleast 2k for just food and drinks. guest list was already at 80 and as low as we could go since we both have big families. Wheres the ceremony going to be – is there a fee or a donation you have to make to the church. In a 3k dollar budget – theres no such thing as “only” – every penny counts because everything adds up. Be careful to carefull account for every little cost.
Its definitely do able but it takes giving up on things, and a lot of time and discipline. We’re all here if you need any ideas! Good luck!
Post # 10
If you keep the guest list small, I think it’s doable.
And since you are on a tight budget, I highly recommend draw a list of things you absolutely cannot cut. (For instance, venue and catering.)Then find out the budget for those things, then you will know what’s left for other things you need to spend on.
Post # 11
@hiswife2b: i think your budget can work. 2 questions: how many guests are you having and where do you live? these will always affect the budget. i know that certain areas are much more expensive for catering, etc.
Post # 12
@hiswife2b: Awesome advice guys. Well, my guestlist is for 50-60. We both wanted a small intimate wedding anyway. No alcohol because our families don’t drink… neither do we. Also, I want an early wedding so the reception will probaby begin about 2 or 3 or at least by 4. So I plan to do a light lunch or finger foods. We’re using an ipod for music. The ceremony is at my church, and his dad is the pastor so no cost involved there outside of a few bows or something. Im not including the rings or the honeymoon in the budget. But I plan to include the wedding night hotel stay. But Im not that concerned with transportation really. I don’t think it’s important, but I will check to see if I can squeeze it in if the price is right. And you guys are right. I made that decision this weekend actually. Ive gotten tired of peoples opinions. I was so close to just saying do what yall want. I’ll just show up. But yes, from this point forward Im keeping it hush hush. My aim is for it to be beautiful.. very nice. But not stuffy. We love to laugh and have a good time. So we’re also going to have wedding games, appropriate for the occasion and atmosphere of course.Everyone will pretty much stay seated. It will be far from boring and I want the guest mingling and involved. Such encouragement is greatly appreciated! 😉
Post # 13
I live in Georgia. The weddng is almost an hour from Atlanta.
Post # 14
You can definitely do a wedding for $3,000 or less! You just need to have realistic expecations and understand that you can’t invite everyone under the sun to your reception.
If you’re not averse to doing so, you can try on dresses at a salon and then order the dress you want online. That’s what I did with my dress and I ended up getting the dress of my dreams for $132. I found a tailor to do the alterations I wanted for $60. That still kept my dress & veil under $200 ($192 total).
If you don’t want a church wedding, having your ceremony in the same venue as the reception will save the cost of paying for the church & transportation to the reception. Check with local hotels to see if they have wedding buffet packages. We’re having our ceremony & reception at a well-known hotel in our town. By opting for a cash bar, instead of open bar and cutting out the hors d’oeuvres, we were able to knock $22 per person off the price. So, for 50 guests, we’re having our ceremony & reception for under $2,400. We have a friend who is a professional photographer doing the photos as a gift to us. Another friend is a DJ who is also gifting his DJ services for our day.
Do lots of research and NEGOTIATE everything! Remember, the “W” word jacks up the price on everything!
I called a bakery about our wedding cake and they quoted me $350 and up. I called back a few weeks later and asked for a cake for an event to feed 50 people and it was only $71. Like I said, the “W” word inflates the price. We didn’t care about having white frosting & an elaborate cake. We wanted a YUMMY cake 🙂
You’ve got a lot of time to plan & negotiate, so lots of luck to you. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding!!!
Only 3 months & 20 days to go….(but who’s counting?)
Post # 15
I love this wedding !
$2795 minus the photobooth!
When it comes to wedding details, I found it’s best to not share every detail – because they don’t have to know, then they cannot comment, and stuff changes!
Post # 16
You can definitly have a $3000 dollar wedding. That is my budget. And I have a 150 person guest. I found the hall for less than $450 for 4 hours. Dress for $220 with alterations. Photographer for $220. Florist for $250. DIY veil, garter and ring pillow for less than $5 total. DIY card box. DIY table signs and numbers. Caterer for around $1000 or so (I meet with him this week to discuss specifics).
We might increase the budget since now we’re looking at adding some alcohol (more than just beer), and a DJ (we had his cousin but since he is also in the wedding, that’s a no go.) I also might add transportation (not a limo though).
We might be saving money though… we might change the ceremony from our backyard to a church, which means I won’t have to rent chairs. And I won’t have to spend extra money on decorations for the cocktail hour. So it’ll all work out.
My budget does not include the honeymoon. But it can be done.