Post # 1
Hello bees! I was a member here about 6 years ago at the time of my wedding. Different account though because I forgot my username, haha. I’m back now because we are starting to seriously TTC and I have no one in my life to talk to about it. I don’t want to talk to my family and friends because I am pretty reserved about personal medical things. I also think my family would be just awful with the pressure and questions if they knew.
So I’m soon-to-be 35, no known fertility issues. I’ve been off birth control for a few years, and we have not gotten pregnant. I decided last week to start tracking my ovulation through POAS and temping, so I just got those supplies yesterday. I have used clue for a few years, and it was been pretty accurate about my period but I don’t know if it would be as accurate about ovulation. Should I start using Fertility Friend as well?
I’m not wondering yet if either of us has a medical issue because honestly, we haven’t been trying very hard. I think a doctor would laugh at us if we told them how much we have been trying. I think we need a few months of actual trying before I get scared.
I guess my question is…anything else I (or we) should be doing? Thanks ladies!
Post # 2
Welcome to the TTC boards! Yeah I’d recommend downloading Fertility Friend – it’s the most user-friendly, accessible app for temping in my opinion. The fact that Clue has been able to accurately predict your periods means you must have pretty regular cycles, which is great! But yeah Clue has no “clue” (sorry couldn’t resist) when you’re actually ovulating, which is why temping and OPKs are useful. For example, someone with a “perfect” 28 day cycle could ovulate anywhere from day 12 to day 19 or so; if you aren’t temping or using OPKs, you have no real way of knowing when you’re ovulating and could miss your fertile window entirely unless you have unprotected sex at least every other day throughout the majority of your cycle.
The “TTC bible” around here is the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. So if you want a true deep dive into charting your cycles, I’d pick that up – you can read the key chapters in under an hour and it’s very accessible. Good luck!
Post # 3
tiffanybruiser : Thanks so much for your response! I will download FF now and order Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It sounds like it will be really helpful because I’m definitely feeling ‘clue’less (haha I couldn’t resist that one!)
Post # 4
Yes, download Fertility Friend & the Ovia app…love those two!!
Post # 5
Just wanted to welcome you to the boards and wish you luck!
I just had my little guy 5 weeks ago, so transitioning into new parenthood! These ladies are amazing and great support. I still pop on the boards because I miss them, and am totally invested in their journiss.
The amount of knowledge on these boards is astounding.
Definitely second the suggestion about reading Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It really helps getting the basics down and starting to understand all the different moving parts.
Post # 6
Looks like everyone has covered everything. Just wanted to welcome you to the tcc boards!
Post # 7
heartandstars : I prefered Fertility Friend for charting, I thought the charts were easier to read than some of the others. TCOYF is a great read and will help you understand everything. Without temping, the app can guess at ovulation but it can be off enough that you might struggle getting pregnant witout temping. By “not trying hard”…what does that mean? Not to scare you either since it could be a very simple thing like missing ovulation (easy fix) but also if you’ve been off birth control that long I wouldn’t wait more than 6mo after this before contacting your OB if you don’t get pregnant after this (at 35, 6mo of trying without a pregnancy is enough to be seen). Good luck!
Post # 8
I definitely recommend Fertility Friend! I was using Clue before I started temping and apparently my cycle was just irregular enough to not show an accurate FW. (My cycle length ranges from 26-32 days, on average.) I did that for about 7 months with no luck. Because it’s not meant for that. The nice thing about FF is, it tells you how long your luteal phase is, which is the same every month, so as long as you know when you ovulate, you’ll know when to expect your period (or test for pregnancy). That to me, is the biggest blessing, because it’s never a surprise when I start, and I’m always prepared now.
Also, keeping track of your cervical mucous can be beneficial in predicting when you’re going to ovulate. Temping will only tell you afterwards.
Post # 9
kes18 : Thank you! We haven’t been having regular enough sex for the past year because of outside family/life issues, so the plan is actively have a lot more sex than we have been having, do all the the temping and ovulation sticks to nail down ovulation and if nothing happens in 6 months then go to the doctor. I am definitely starting to get concerned about my age :/
kllyashton : Thank you! I have downloaded FF and I’ll start inputting data in tomorrow. I don’t know anything about cervical mucus so I am going to do some research tonight.
Dr_dazzle : Thank you! 🙂
MsPlucky : Thank you!! Congratulations on your baby! 🙂
Mellybobelly : Thank you! I haven’t heard of Ovia so I will look into that