(Closed) New to site/ need advice already lol

posted 11 years ago in Money
Post # 3
8029 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

What kind of wedding do you envision?  And how much off is your budget from the wedding you want?  If you give us a little bit more information, we might be able to give you better answers.  You can have a very nice wedding on a smaller budget- so don’t worry!

Post # 4
876 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Welcome Aryel! When we first got engaged, the most useful piece of advice was to start making the guest list.  If you don’t know what your numbers are, it would be pretty hard to start looking at venues.

Post # 5
3525 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with ritsi bitsi. The first thing you should do is start a guest list and a budget (how much do you and Fiance have to spend? How much can you save up between now and the wedding? Are you getting any outside contribution?). From there then you can know what kind of venue/wedding you can afford.

IE If your initial guest list is 200 people and your budget is 5K.
What is more important to you? A uber fancy black tie wedding? I think it’s safe to say in any city with 5K if you want a uber fancy black tie wedding you will not be able to invite 200ppl.
But if it’s more important for you to have all 200 people there then perhaps you rethink the type of wedding you want to something that will allow you to invite all 200.
If the black tie fancy wedding is more important to you then you probably have to cut the guest list significantly.


Post # 6
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

It all depends on the type of ceremony you want. We wanted small so we chose destination with just a few close friends and family members. My friend wanted elaborate so she had a huge event that cost a fortune. My cousin just got married and had a ceremony and reception at the firehall. It is all in what you want and what kind of guests you are accomodating.

Post # 7
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

You and your Fiance should sit down and each make a list of your top three priorities for the wedding (like food, music, location, decor, huge guest list), and then show them to each other.  This will give you some idea where you should put the majority of your money – the key is to then really scrimp on everything else that isn’t as important to you, or you’ll blow your budget.  Think of your wedding day as a whole – what feeling do you want?  Intimate or party-time?  Organized or casual?  Day or night?  More food or more dancing?  Concentrating on the big picture first will stop you from ending up with discordant details.  Check out apracticalwedding.com, it’s another great place to see how brides made their days meaningful to them. 

The most basic ways to save money: not Saturday, not dinner, small guest list.  Check out public venues – many counties own old mansions, and most have parks and museums.  With each detail, think: is this really important to me?  If your guests are comfortable and happy, you’d be surprised what they won’t notice, so only pay for fancy chairs, colored linens, personalized napkins if you want them, not because you think they’re necessary. Be careful of diy – it’s often more expensive than you think. 

One piece of advice I wish I had gotten: don’t tell people stuff until you’re sure about it.  For instance, if you don’t know how big your wedding is going to be, don’t ask all your friends to be bridesmaids.  And until you know your guest list for sure, when people ask about the wedding, it’s “very small” not “oh of course you’re invited”.  Then if they get an invitation they’ll be flattered, and you won’t have to explain if you have to cut them. 

Post # 8
2249 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2021

@hopewell- good avice on not telling people!

also dont do things for the sake of doing them, if you don’t like cake, don’t spend the money on an elaborite cake etc.

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