Post # 1
Just found out yesterday that I am pregnant again, and so far the tests are looking super strong, making me hopeful that we will keep this one! That said, I could use a little advice.
DH and I moved to Connecticut this summer (From Texas). Being so new to the area, we don’t have a GP yet. I want to make an appointment ASAP, to get the ball rolling on making sure the pregnancy is okay, but I don’t know how to begin. We have no idea where we want to give birth yet, and I fear the process of narrowing down our options and deciding will take too long.
Should I make an appontment with any old OB-GYN just to do the intial appointment, and then transfer care once we decide on a provider? Should we hold off on making an appointment until we decide on a provider? Do you have another suggestion?
Also, there are a couple of birth centers in the area but they are both about 45 minutes to an hour away. Do you think that is too far?
Anything you can tell me would be appreciated!
Post # 3
I moved across country while 4 months pregnant and it can be overwhelming.
I did a few things
- joined angieslist to read reviews of local doctors etc
- spoke with neighbors with young kids about their opinions of doctors, hospitals etc
- called the top runners to ask some questions that were important to me
And then I just chose one and saw how the first appointment went. Choose one item/task at a time. Choose a doctor/midwife you are comfortable with first because that could very well limit your options where you deliver.
I dont think 45-60 is too far. many people dont live that near a hospital or birthing center and do just fine. When most women go into labor they have hours before they have to go in. If you progress quickly you just leave early to get there.
Post # 4
@missrain: My OB is going to be 75 miles away from the doctor I am seeing now, so I will not even really get to know my OB before the delivery. And from what the Bee said you really don’t need to because chances are he/she might not even be the one delivering the baby.
That aside, I would maybe do some online research about what clinic is the best in your area. Maybe ask a few co-workers or something and then try it out. You more than likely will have to narrow it down, ut if you find someone you like right away just stick with them.
I think I would still make an appointment to get blood drawn and what not since it sounds as though you might have had a m/c at one point? It might be a good idea to at least get that out of the way.
Post # 5
@missrain: I would search by hospital quality, THEN find in-network OBs that can work at that hospital!
That was how we picked my OB practice!
Post # 6
@missrain: I’m from southern CT too – PM me – depending where you are in Southern CT I may be able to help you! Welcome to CT by the way!
Post # 7
@BrandNewBride: Yeah, this is what I did! I researched a ton (found a state website that listed c-sections and episiotomys – both of which were VERY important to me to be low!) and found what seemed the best hospital in driving distance (35 min.) I also searched facebook for a couple parenting groups specific to my city (after not finding much helpful up-to-date info on places like the local thebump and whattoexpect boards), and was able to learn more information about the hospital that supported my theory that this was the kind of hospital I wanted. Then I picked a random doctor from that hospital, I ended up really not liking her, so I switched doctors (and found out that in the meantime my first doctor got fired! Wasn’t just me, haha…)
Post # 8
@red_rose: I hadn’t thought of checking with local parenting groups– thanks!
@MrsBaldEagle: Thanks for the welcome! I sent you a PM…
@megz06: and @ThreeMeers: Thanks for your input. An hour doesn’t seem bad to me, but then again I am not currently in labor! It sounds like I should not discount these places just for distance, though.
@BrandNewBride: Thanks for your suggestion!
Post # 9
@missrain: i dont think you need to worry about it taking too long if you’ve just found out you’re pregnant. Other than telling you to take prenatals and later doing some blood work, in a lot of places they wont give you an ultrasound or much info until between 8-12 weeks
i dont think 45mins to an hour is too long, thats how far the hospital i selected for my baby is away from our house. there were others closer but it was the one i liked most
i agree with pp definitely look for comments/recommendations from neighbours and online. If you really want to see old obgyn go for it, but i think you dont really need to right now. take prenatals and steer clear of the things they tell pregnant women to avoid (smoking, alcohol, sushi etc)
Post # 10
@missrain: Definitely don’t discount them because they are farther away. I probably wouldn’t go much more than an hour, but the baby won’t come sliding out right after entering labor, so that is why I figured I would be ok. I could have delivered 15 miles away, but I wanted a really good OB at a clinic I have been to, so that is why I chose something 75 miles away 🙂
Post # 11
@missrain: are you working? I would ask coworkers or neighbors for recommendations. You don’t need to say that you’re pregnant- I think it is normal for someone new to the area to ask for that kind of info.
I would look for a large or academic health system and start there. Not sure where you are but if possible I would go to yale. I live in Philly and went straight to Penn. unless you think you want a birth center experience.
Not sure if I was helpful!