(Closed) new to the bee, not new to waiting

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@Ms.B: Sorry to hear how bummed you are. You’re definitely in the right place. Most, if not all ladies here can relate.

I am a proponent of communication and being vocal about your desire to get engaged sooner than later. However, I do not condone nagging and over-communicating on the topic. That can be a turn-off.

If you haven’t already, I’d suggest mentioning to him what you want, but only when the topic comes up naturally in a pressure-free setting. Lightheartedly tell him that you are ready now and you can’t wait to be engaged to him. If you feel you can share more, maybe mention that you have been together much longer than some of your engaged/married friends, and you are ready to take that step with him. (Only you know how he would react to a statement like that.)

Of course, say these things lovingly, but be very clear and be sure to ask for feedback.  Make sure he tells you what he is thinking, and perhaps even a timeline he has in mind.

I suggest this approach because I did it and it made me feel so much better about the situation. I can also tell my SO is more confident since he knows that I can’t wait to be his fiancee/wife. And he also has a concrete goal to work toward.

Good luck and hope it happens soon!

Post # 4
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369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If you two went looking for rings this week, give him som more time – he is obviously thinking marriage, so give him the benefit of the doubt for now.  I went looking for rings with my fiance, and then it took him 2 months to propose… I nearly lost my mind waiting (plus we’ve been living together for 2.5 years, so it feels like forever) so I know how you feel! Try try try to just relax and enjoy your life together.  He’s getting there.

Post # 6
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3303 posts
Sugar bee

No advice- just come here to bitch if you need to! We all understand your situation. Hoping your guy pops the question soon.

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