(Closed) New to the Boards But Not to Waiting…

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
4567 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Welcome to WB! The waiting boards are a really awesome, supportive place and we’re glad to have you here!

Post # 4
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50 posts
Worker bee

you’re in the right place & in good company πŸ™‚

 

Post # 5
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611 posts
Busy bee

Welcome to the Hive! Feel free to talk about wedding crazies as much as you want! We promise not to bite your head off or tell you that you are mentioning rings and proposals too much!

Post # 6
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Welcome to WB!  We are here to listen to all your waiting woes!

Post # 7
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10218 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

Welcome to the Hive!! I totally know what you’re going through, and it’s okay to come here to vent :D.  How long have the two of you been dating?

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

@taylor ((HUGS)) I know the 30 year itch and man is it hard to be nearly 30!! it’s a huge milestone…  The only suggestion that I have is the one that I have to remind myself of ALL THE TIME!! internal timelines that have something to do with someone else rarely work with others goals and timelines, sometimes they have to be tweaked.  Now, I don’t live by this philosophy, just last night I was going tick tock what’s the hold up…

Does he know how much it’s affecting you, perhaps after finals you and he should have a heart to heart about what’s going on with you so that he knows how you feel about it.  He may not know how much this is hurting you.

Post # 10
Member
368 posts
Helper bee

Welcome!! It’ll come soon!! πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

welcome aboard Taylor! i feel your pain. more. than. you. know πŸ™‚  i was in grad school for a big part of relationship and i know he kinda wanted that to be outta the way before we thought about getting married. i pretty much have like a semester left (but took this semester off), and i’m turning 30 in march of next year, and i think i will about die if we aren’t at least engaged by then! i don’t know what it is but 30 feels like such a “make or break” age…. like “if x doesn’t happen by 30, it never will!”…. sigh. i’m trying to not to add any pressure to the situation but if i could have only one wish….. πŸ™‚

hang in there!

Post # 13
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Welcome! I have a couple of comments for you. First, it sounds like getting married (and soon!) is very important to you. Have you had a real conversation about a timeline with your BF? Do you know for sure if he wants to get married at all? I am always encouraging people to establish a ‘deadline’ where you would be willing to call off the relationship if there isn’t a ring, make him aware of it. Because ultimately if you are unhappy in the relationship without an engagement, you need to look out for #1.

Second, my FH always used to say my ring was going to be a big surprise and there’s no way he would take me shopping for it. Then, once he started to shop for real, he realized how expensive they are and how many options are available. The next thing I knew we were at Tiffany trying on engagement rings.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Taylor – I’m with you on the hard deadline issue. I really want to make one. I’ve joked with my friends that if he doesn’t propose by my birthday, I’m throwing a “I’m 30 and single” party! We’ve talked about buying something together and working on saving money for a wedding and/or buying a house, but I’m definitely not making steps toward the home-buying unless we are engaged. It’s a HUGE financial commitment to me, and I would def. feel more secure if there was a ring on my finger. I wish I were in the financial position to do so myself because I think in fact it would make things easier for us. But thus is life!

You’ll get there – I know it!

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