(Closed) New to the boards – seeking advice

posted 6 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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9550 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Greetings and welcome!!! It can be a frustrating time but I’d just make sure he knows you’re ready, but then be patient! And enjoy where you are. Wedding planning is craziness, so enjoy some calm before the storm!

Post # 4
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964 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I actually wasn’t “waiting” for long… He proposed 2 weeks after buying the ring which we picked out together. Good luck though and don’t stress too much.

Post # 7
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Welcome!  So, what’s the background on you and your SO?  How long have you been waiting?  Do you have any idea when he’ll propose?  I’m waiting too…. 🙂  Happy to share frustrations!

Post # 9
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Welcome!  Are you two on the same page regarding marriage?  Have you guys talked about timelines, where each wants to be?  You mentioned he knows your ready, but where is he on the scale?

We talked about getting engaged, when is a good time, me not wanting to move in unless I was engaged (I owned my own house), when we wanted to get married, how long of an engagement is good, etc.  This was all talked about, agreed upon 1.5 years before anything happened LOL!  Then I’d check in every 6 months or so to see if we’re still on the same page. 

 

I just wondered how other couples talk about that or if that’s less common to plan it out like that.  Don’t get me wrong, the proposal was still a surprise even though I had selected the ring and I knew the season, etc.

Post # 10
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

30somethingbee:  One resource might be checking out the waiting boards….I’m on there quite a bit.  Lots of others in your position!  Totally agree with the previous post about talking expectations and guidelines.  No pressure on anyone, just sharing of what you each want.  Men dont’ always have the same sense of urgency or timelines as we do, so maybe you guys should talk about where you see your relationship going?

sienna76:  My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I talked early on in our relationship about what we wanted, just to make sure we were on the same page.  Same as you:  How long an engagement, kids, house, all that.  Lately, as the proposal draws near (hopefully), we talk abotu our future quite frequently.

Post # 11
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@hassle_J:  Totally off subject, but is that a Kifaru Tipi in your avatar?

Post # 12
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40 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m also a new bee and very excited!! Welcome!!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@30somethingbee:  welcome, glad you found the site.  I know our situations will be different but I also waited quite a while, he finally proposed after 14 years together.  We have also had our ups and downs but are very happy now, we are planning our wedding for next April (it will be 2.5 yrs engaged by the time we get married so we didnt rush that part either), mainly because we wanted a Destination Wedding but some close family members said they couldnt come but now they can.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I felt like I was waiting forever…. and I mean FOREVER.  It’s been over 13 years (and 3 kids later) and we didn’t even go the tradiitonal route.  We talked about getting married and I told him I wanted to do it this year on our 14 year anniversary so we decided to just go ahead and do it.  I picked out the ring I loved and he hid it for a few weeks then gave it to me after I kept bugging him and that is when he ‘officially’ proposed (after we’d been wedding planning for 4 months LOL.)  So yeah, not tradtional at all.  But the wait was worth it as I am marrying my high school sweetheart and love of my life.  hang in there.

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