Post # 1
Hello everyone. I decided to stop lurking and actually join the WeddingBee boards today, mostly because I’m too sick of “waiting” to start planning. To be honest I’ve been planning my wedding since I was 14 years old, but now that I’ve found my Mr. Wonderful I have a very clear picture of what I want it to be.
I wonder- how much are you ladies actually planning pre-ring? I have a lot of ideas pinned down and I have my ideal date in my head, but before I can actually say I’m engaged I don’t know how much I can really do. My love and I have been together for two and half years. We have a dog and a home together so it’s pretty much a done deal. We even talk about it quite frequently. I don’t feel sad or desperate when I pre-plan- but how far is too far?
I guess I’m not sure where to draw the line. He knows I go on wedding blogs- mostly just to gather ideas. I even get his opinions on some when I find something I particularly like. We’ve talked about budget and size of the ceremony and reception of this, for now, fictitious, event, but would it be diving into the crazy pool to say… take my three would-be bridesmaids to buy the cute J-Crew dresses I’ve been eyeing when they go on sale (simply because they’re on sale NOW and won’t be LATER)?
How much is too much? Thoughts?
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Hmmmm, it might be a little early to go bridesmaid dress shopping, only because it’s a fun thing to do and it will be so much better if you wait until you’re actually engaged…There will always be cute JCrew dresses on sale 🙂 I think you can plan general stuff (type of venue, ceremony, colors, etc) but wait until you have a ring before going into specifics…just my thoughts tho, others might feel differently, welcome to WB 🙂
Post # 4
You can gather as many ideas as you want. There will be no limit to that since nothing can be set in stone with just ideas. Start jotting stuff down in a notebook or a program on your computer. Anything will work but I highly recommend Microsoft OneNote. It’s just like a binder/notebook but on your computer. It has been a great help to me so far. You can type, make lists, copy & paste pictures (and the best part about it is that OneNote pastes the website where you got a picture from. So no worries if you forget where you found something!) You can also do this in Microsoft Word but then it’s not as organized and I don’t know about the copy & paste thing. You can even password-protect tabs on OneNote so anyone sneaky enough won’t be able to see what you do on the computer all day.
Post # 5
I have no ring yet but my FH and I have already booked the venue and photog to secure our date! So really it is up to you two as a couple – i wouldn’t do any definite planning (deposits or purchases) without his knowledge or input though!
Post # 6
i’ve looked at dresses online but that’s as far as it goes. since i don’t know when we’ll be getting engaged or the time of year we’ll end up getting married, it’s kind of hard to do the dress thing.
but i do have ideas of the type and style i want, which seems like what you have now. i wouldn’t buy anything like that though…considering how often i change my mind on clothes [getting ready in the morning SUCKS] i wouldn’t lock myself in. you never know, there might be an even better dress later!
that said, the boy knows i’ve been squirrelling away ideas and projects [he glances at my planning blog that he set up for me] so figuring out a venue, possible vendors, and the general feel of your event is fair game i say! good luck and welcome to the hive.
Post # 7
There is nothing wrong with researching but don’t buy anything until it’s done. It’s a little too much, and it is so much different and better and exciting to shop for things and buy them when you’re actually engaged. It’s worth the wait, I promise!
Post # 8
Interestingly enough last evening he and I had a nice conversation about getting engaged. I didn’t ask for a timeline but I found out that it SHOULD happen within six months. (Big sigh of relief!)
I have always wanted a fall wedding and I have a few venues in mind- both things I have shared with the future Mr.- but I’m anxious to start the particulars. I also don’t want to feel rush when it comes down to it. For now I’m ok with stowing things away in my future-wedding folder (tangible and on my hard drive).
It’s getting tougher and tougher, though…