- 7 years ago
First off, Hi everyone! I’m new on the boards but I need some advice 🙂
My SO and I have been dating for a little over 2.5 yrs and over the summer talked about the fact that we were planning on marrying each other eventually. We’re both only 21 so we want time after college to live on our own and learn to care for ourselves before try to take care of each other. I’m trying very hard to be patient since I told him I am ready for an engagement but he’s not, which (considering our age and that we’ve both never lived away from home) is reasonable. I seem to keep wanting to get ahead of myself though and that’s the problem .
For this NYE and New Years he wants to spend the days alone with me which is very unusual for him. His family gets together to play games and pool all night and they bring in the new year together. We’ve been with them the past two years but now he finds it really important for it to be only us, not even his friends. He’s been like this before but never on a day that’s such a big time with his family. My mind automatically jumps to “Is he going to propose??” For a long time he shied away from anything wedding related but has been asking me what kind of honeymoon I would want and a couple months ago took me to a seminar about helping spouses adjust to life with the army (he’s commissioning when he graduates).
I know NYE is going to be great whether he proposes or not but I don’t know how to NOT spend the whole weekend wondering if he’s going to do it. In August I’ll have a pretty big distraction since I’m going to be going to optometry school and will be very busy for a couple of years but I need ways to distract myself until then with the way he’s been acting the past couple weeks. I seriously doubt it’s going to happen any time soon but I can’t help but hope .
Sorry this is so long!