First of I just want to say how much I LOVE you profile picture! It’s stunning!
Anyway thank you 🙂 I am trying to get out there looking to meet new people, as yes I am incrediably lonely.
The problem is with my SO is he see’s the good in everyone and rarely sees the negative. He thinks all girls are “sweethearts” if thier nice to your face, he doesn’t understand that someone can be completely different behind ones back. He thinks that no men cause trouble… because they’re men. I love that he is so positive about people but he is way to trusting and thinks to highly of people. Our mutual friends all say the same… “Stuart it so niav when it comes to his home town friends”.
example if I or his family told him Aliens had landed he would laugh. If his home town friends told him he’d be like ” What… really?.. When?..” and I don’t think that it’s because he values his friends more than me it’s just he thinks they have always got the best intentions for him and that they think as highly of him as he does them.
Yes I do find it horrible that a group of friends changed his mind about proposing but when I think of it if Liam (My Best friend) or Brad (My twin brother) tried to talk me out of my relationship I would take into account what they have said, it wouldn’t mean that I would change my mind but I would be asking myself why the people that know me most in the world have doubts. But my friends arn’t as bitchy as his. Which he doesn’t see because he is blind to it, like I said he has a group of friends that consist of 30 odd people. I have a group of 3. My twin, Liam and myself. Of course theres going to be much more bitching and drama in his group. They all egg each other on and influence each other. Where as in my group there is no space to be bitchy, if we have a problem we have to talk it out. Only twice have they stepped in on my relationships.
1. Found out my ex SO had slept with his ex wife whilst being with and then had the nerve to threaten me, My twin head butted him (not that I agree with violence) and Liam told him that he would never allow me go back to him.
2. Liam stepped in when an ex kicked me out of his car in nothing but a nighty (no shoes) it was November at 11pm and in the countryside and I was about 2 hours away from anyones house I knew. He came to the rescue.
I think that sort of “getting inolved” is acceptable, but if Liam or Brad ever came up to me just to talk ill of SO then I would set them striaght. They are true friends to me, where as I feel his friends are more wrapped up in thier own lives and social circle.
My piont is, if my friends came to me with concerns of SO it would be for a decent reason, not just because I didnt grow up on the same street as them. So I understand that he feels the same about his friends however he doesn’t see the drama and trouble causing that some of his group are… he thinks they love him/respect him as much as he does them. So when they come to him he takes everything they say as gospal.
I guess what I’m saying is, as cruel/nasty as it sounds I think I have nicer and more supportive friends than he does. I mean my twin isn’t going to stab me in the back and Liam is the one person whom I’m not related too that I would die for. We have a solid friendship that we have worked on for years. We’re friends because we are compatible and love each other, not for the sake of it because we live in the same place. My friends are for life, his are for convienience. I have never said this too him but that’s how I feel. I do believe he loves his friends but to them he’s just another number to their group.
So I have decided that hopefully with time comes wisdom, as long as I prove that I am the faithful, supporting, caring and loving partner I am. Im the one that’s going to be with him whilst they either get bored and lose interest in interfering OR he moves on.
Sorry I babbled just trying to explain the different types of friendship… not sure if it comes across how I mean…..