Post # 1
Hello all! I’m new to this site and my boyfriend and I’ve been together for (drumroll) 9 years in October. We met back in high school, so obviously an engagement at a young age was not possible or wanted.
We went to look at rings back in December and he knows exactly what I want, but still waiting. I’ve mentioned it to him…like a timefram, that booger says, “3 years.” Of course, it’s not going to be 3 years, he just doesn’t want to give any hints.
Well this past week, we’ve been fighting. I’ve come to th realization that a fancy ring isn’t necessary and it’s the meaning behind it. I don’t care what it looks like, I just want to be with him. How can I convince him the ring doesn’t matter anymore. That I don’t care about a fancy ring and I won’t be disappointed with whatever he gives me.
I guess I’m just absorbing myself in the blog, to get my mind off things. We originally picked out a 1.25ct center diamond with double halo. Now I just want a simple diamond band.
Post # 3
Welcome to the Hive!
Nine years? You’re a saint! I had to wait 7 and it was torture some days.
Are you changing your mind on the style ring you want because there are financial issues, or because you think it will spur him to propose quicker?
Post # 4
@MapleMoose: Some days it’s torture, but all worth it. Definitely changing my mind because of the recent disagreement we had. Just made me realize that it wasn’t about the materialism of a ring. It’s the symbolism and that’s it. Apparently, I’ve had an epiphany and I’d say it’s pretty good timing.
Thaks for replying!!
Post # 5
Welcome welcome…and welcome to waiting lol. My SO and I are big into charity and minimalism. A ring that requires payments upon payments just seemed wrong to us. I believe a ring should reflect not just the wearer but the relationship it stands for! Good luck!
Post # 6
@sa.to.sb.soon: Welcome! 😀
You are quite a lovely woman for waiting that long! I think a simple band is beautiful and I’m excited to see what he actually gets for you when your name is off the list! 😉
Post # 7
I can understand what your going through. I was with my Fiance for 8 years (not including high school were we met) and it was just torture waiting for my proposal. The more I pushed the more he seemed to resist. I finally got to the point were I backed off and let him decide how and when and less than 2 months later he proposed! I say just give it time and be patient and it will happen sooner than you think!!
Post # 8
Wow, this place is amazing! I’m quickly becoming addicted! Thank you all for the kind words!
I can’t wait to see what the future holds with my new ‘outlook’! I just feel so blessed that I came to the realization about what it really means. I new before, but was blinded by the all the ring bling!
Thank you all!
Post # 9
@sa.to.sb.soon: I hate diamonds and still sometimes slow down and stop to look at a ring in the jewlery window. They are rather blinding, I’m glad you’ve come around to this fresh new outlook! 😀
See you around!
Post # 10
Wow, I came here after reading your post on my “introduction” post and we really are similar. My “booger” did the same thing when I hinted around –“oh that’s not gonna happen for like 3 years or so” hence the reason I was wondering if he still remembered our next summer talk! haha
I also have had a recent epiphany about the ring being a symbol and that I do not need a super fancy or expensive ring. It’s not like I was ever looking at a super-gaudy ring in the first place, but I recently (last night) hinted that I do not even care if it is an actual diamond. While that would be FANTASTIC, I do not need or expect any specific ring. I was trying to tread lightly in case he already bought a ring – I didn’t want him to doubt any recent purchases! haha
But happy waiting to you! Hopefully it comes quickly!