(Closed) New to Wedding Planning, thinking elopement, need your thoughts…

posted 6 years ago in Elopement
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  • Wedding: August 2012

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TraverseCityBee:  I think you’ll get a lot of pro-elopers on this forum here!  Some people had family drama, some people caved and had parents only as guests to make them happy.

How about picking a beautiful vacation like locale (vacationy to you).  Invite each of the parents out for the wedding, and maybe each of your mothers can serve as your witnsesses (most states want 2 witnesses and their signatures).  Then take them all out to dinner a nice resataurant that takes care of all the champange, food, linens, etc as your “reception.”  Then you can all do fun activities before or after the wedding while on locale?  They can be involved by being there and witnessing the wedding.  There is no need to give them a wedding like project (flowers, cake, etc) if that is what you were thinking. 

H and I married at Emerald Lake Lodge in Canada.  We’re not Canadian either!  Never been here!  I just booked their elopement package and they took care of everything.  We drove up from the states with the wedding dress in a box.  We took 11 days to camp, hike, hotel, etc for our weddingmoon.  H’s parents met up with us 2 nights prior to the wedding and they served as our witnesses.  It was also their 40th wedding anniversary that summer, so the night before the wedding we had a very fancy meal.  Then the night of the wedding another fancy meal.  It really turned out so lovely.  And No stress!  My dad is passed, but my mom is alive.  She culd not even make it to my own state in the US let alone canada so she was no tthere, nor did she have any interest in being there (that part was very clear, “Do I have to be there?  What else is going on besides a wedding?  That’s a long way to travel for just a wedding.”)

In our situation, there was nothing for the parents to do in terms of helping out with the wedding.  It was very simple, very lovely and beautiful.  We just showed up and looked good honestly.  The venue did the rest.


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