(Closed) New Traditions (Christmas) – how to ‘inform’ extended family?

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I dunno … I would call her and do it at least over the phone, I think that if she has the expectation it will be at her house, the least you can do is call her up and explain your reasoning (not that you OWE her an explanation, I just think it is the right thing to do). I personally would be put off by receiving it in an email.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Why not just let the families know that you would like to host Christmas this year.  Whether over the phone or in an email to everyone involved.  It’s not like she owns Christmas.  

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I just had so much drama with my family over having Thanksgiving at my house instead of my future SIL house. Good luck and hope you dont have any problems! Talk to her n the phone so that you avoid any more drama than you need!

Post # 6
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Honey bee

How about sending an e-vite to everyone including DH’s family so that people have to respond and see everyone elses response. This way its  formal invite and then when you talk to her after she received it you can ask her to respond, assuming she hasnt.  If you speak to your mom let her know what you are doing as well so its not a surprise and if she is willing to come I bet your sister will follow.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Is there more family on your side (your parents? other siblings? further extended family?) or is it just the two of you + her immediate family?

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper

@oracle: I think it’s fair to tell your sister “hey, now that we’re married, we’re considering our options for how to spend holidays. this year, we’d like to invite both families to our place for Christmas day.”

I would call her again, but that’s just me – I’d want to talk about it and leave it with something like, “think about it, and if you would rather do Christmas at your place with just your family, we’ll understand, and we’ll definitely have Christmas Eve with all of our side no matter what.”

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