(Closed) New trend to Thank You Cards?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think they’re a trend, but shouldn’t replace the traditional thank you card. My brother and SIL sent out their thank you notes and along with the personal, hand written thank you card, they included a photo just like you described. I LOVED that as an inclusion with the note, to me it made it even more special and I now have their beautiful mugs hung on my fridge 🙂

Post # 33
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

IMO, I think it’s rude to not thank each guest personally with some type of handwritten card. I get that we are a society of convenience (and borderline laziness) but come on. What’s next? A collective thank you email? Ugh.

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

What do you say if people just gave you money though? I feel awkward saying “thank you for your money!”… hardly anyone got us an actual gift, so for situations like this, how do you word something?

Post # 35
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Worker bee

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@SnowPeony:“Thank you so much for your generous gift!  It will be a great help to us as we start our new home.” OR “we used it to purchase X for our home, which we’ve wanted for a long time”  and so on.  In times past, there were differentiations between size of gift – i.e., generous, very generous, extremely generous, etc.

It’s nice to see a wedding picture, but I don’t think it’s right to wait for a picture.  The thank you note is the thing, and it only needs to be 3 sentences long.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have no problem with the Thank You picture post card.

The last Wedding I attended, I recieved a picture of the bride and groom, and on the back there was a hand written thank you note from them.

Post # 37
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507 posts
Busy bee

I got one of these! I thought it was a good idea, well I didn’t think it was a bad idea… but then I got a longer handwritten thank you because I was a bridesmaid.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think this is a “trend” as of right now but you will be seeing more and more of this since traditional/formal written letters are of the past.

 

I think its a great idea and if someone is upset I didnt write the exact gift they bought me and thank them for it they can shove off….in the most polite manner.

 

Post # 39
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374 posts
Helper bee

The photo thank you cards are expensive; and truthfully if the people aren’t family what are they going to do with it?  It’ll end up in the trash.  Get some nice and proper engraved thank you notes with your monograms or names and do it right.  Send the family the photos if you really want to do photos.  They’ll end up on the refrig!  Send people photos who gave you gifts but couldn’t attend if they are family; otherwise, don’t bother.

It’s a bit tacky; but it gets the job done, you can make address labels ahead of time so all you have to do it peal and paste and write.  I’d do the clear address labels though.  i don’t think people really care as long as they get a thank you.  It is really expected. 

Post # 40
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329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I agree with the above posters.  That is very distasteful.  Even though personalized notes take longer… EVERY NOTE should be handwritten and personalized to each person/gift.  I think a blanket thank you is very rude.

Post # 41
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1995 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I do not like that idea – blech.  Write a personal note for goodness sake!  jeez people where are maners?

also side note. I haven’t recieved thank you notes from a few wedding lately… it’s been a while and I dont know you but sent a wrapped gift!!

Post # 42
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373 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think its a new very rude trend for lazy people haha. >< Sorry, that is just upsetting, people do a lot for you around your wedding time and you should take time to be specifically grateful for things they have done.

Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I love the photo card trend, but I still expect a handwritten note in it/on it.  I was pretty irritated when I recently received a few of these with a only pre-printed generic thank you message. It makes me feel that my presence (and presents!) wasn’t worth their time to send a personal note.

I ordered cards with our photo on the front, with no printed text anyhwere.  My husband and I handwrote all our thank you messages inside – honestly, it really does not take long! Like anything else, the hardest part is sitting down in the first place to do it.

Maybe the generic thank you is the trend though – like how when couples pop out a baby they immediately switch over from regular Christmas cards to the flat photo cards from Snapfish or wherever.  Sigh.

Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We did the photo thank you card but we will be writing a individual note in each card. So to me it’s no different than purchasing a generic card that just says Thank You on the front.

If I ever get them out. 😀

Post # 45
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722 posts
Busy bee

It really shocks me that some people are so lazy and entitled that they can’t take a few minutes to write a note to thank someone for a gift.

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

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@eloping: hahaah about the thank you card from 3 years ago

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