Post # 1
I definitely FEEL like a waiting bee although I don’t have a timeline or knowledge of a ring like some other bees :-/ BUT a little background…
My SO and I have been together for 7+ years. We started dating as teens an are now in our 20’s so it wouldn’t really make sense for us to have gotten engaged after a couple years, so the amount of time we’ve been together doesn’t really bother me as far as waiting goes.
I don’t know of a ring and I try not to bring up the subject of engagement because I want him to do it because he really wants to. But I feel like I’ve been seing some signs and getting some vibes from him. For example the past few months he’s started being very frugal. Which is completely out of character for him! He’s usually very affectionate but he’s amped it up lately! He’s been very mushy and lovey dovey. He talks about wanting to marry me and he even says things out of the blue like “I picture us dancing to this song at our wedding” and talks about the type of wedding he would like to have. Whenever he talks about anything long term (new job, moving, etc.) he always includes me. He has even been relying heavily on my opinion with his new job offerings.
The other day he said “I’m so excited for you!” When I asked why he said (almost in a jokingly-narcissistic way) “Because you get to spend the rest of your life with me!”
I know he’s waiting until he finishes school but I can’t help but feel it’s coming soon! I’m willing to bet it’s within the next year 🙂
I’m just so excited and when I found the bee and other waiting bees I felt so relieved like I finally have an outlet for this excitement!
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Hey! 😀 Welcome to the Bee!
I definitely think your signs are looking good! And I think you should head on over and put yourself on the waiting list :3 (if it’s your kinda thing of course XD).
Don’t be afraid to talk to your SO about the possibility of an engagement. You should be able to have an open discussion about future plans without him feeling pressured ^^ And if he does seem like he feels pressured you can leave it for a bit. You seem to be in a good and happy place in your relationship though and that’s lovely to read <3
Wishing you all the best for the future 😀
Edit: I see you already asked to be put on the list so disregard my suggestion to do as such 😉
Post # 4
“We started dating as teens an are now in our 20’s so it wouldn’t really make sense for us to have gotten engaged after a couple years, so the amount of time we’ve been together doesn’t really bother me as far as waiting goes.”
This. You are already ahead of the curve if you realize this!
Post # 5
Have the two of you discussed marriage? ?
Post # 6
Love your user name! Welcome. Things sound like they are getting interesting and exciting for you! I look forward to seeing you future posts! 🙂
Post # 7
@GirlWithTheGlassSlipper – When we would discuss marriage a few years ago he had that typical guy attitude about it, like it was something to avoid at all costs. Recently though (I’d say in the last year or two) he talks about it in an excited loving way. Obviously not as excited as I get about it! But he at least now thinks of it as more of a next-step-with-the-person-you-love than a prison sentence.
He actually brings it up when I’m trying to do the SIUP! That’s mostly the reason I started thinking of myself as a “waiting bee” because he brings it up way more frequently now than he used to and he’ll go to friends’ weddings with me and point out things he’d do differently lol it’s kinda cute.
Oh and the other day he picked up my right hand ring (he gave it to me for valentines day like 5 years ago) and “examined” it and said “I should’ve got bigger diamonds” so I don’t know if he was looking for a ring size or trying to gauge my taste in rings but I thought it was funny that after 5 years he’s just now looking at it. (I love my RHR btw and I don’t need bigger diamonds! lol)
Post # 8
Welcome! I’m a new waiting Bee too! Well I’ve been silently waiting since last summer and I’m trying to do the shut it up thing now! I saw all the signs last summer and then nothing!!……. And still waiting!
My signs were: Asking me did he need to ask for my father’s permission. Asking me what I would say if he proposed, and then mock proposing to me on one knee to gauge my reaction. Talking about our wedding size, venues etc! We flicked on a wedding show one night and he hugged me and said “one day soon…”
And guess what?! Nothing! Ha Ha
I approached him about it in November, and he was somewhat shocked that what he had been saying might lead me to believe a proposal was coming soon! MEN! So I’ve said nothing since unless he has raised it first! I don’t know if he’s secretly saving away for a ring and just trying to fob me off until he’s saved enough, or if he’s changed his mind! Very confusing!
You’re doing the right thing anyway…say nothing until he says it! All your signs are very promising! But I defo think men take their time with these things! I hope you get your proposal soon and I do too! But still it’s great to have here to vent on! I’m keeping my waiting very secret bar 2 of my close girlfriends! I don’t want to come across as a nagger beating him up the aisle although sometimes I would like to that!
Post # 9
@Bettyboo1982 – Welcome! Your SO sounds very sweet! That’s great that marriage is on his mind when he’s with you 😉
I think some guys spend a lot of time saving for a ring and planning the *perfect* proposal. So I can see there being a lot of time between when he decided he wanted to take that step and when he makes his move! I don’t think him being shocked that you were thinking of engagement means he has changed his mind, it sounds like maybe he just thought he was being more secretive about than he was 🙂
I’ve only told my mom about being a lady in waiting. My sister sort of knows, but she is in almost in the same boat.
Can’t wait until we get our proposals!
Post # 10
@VaVaVoomBee: I have no doubt both of us will! its just a matter of when! its a nice exciting feeling though and its nice to know there are other waiting bees out there just as excited! The poor SO’s they won’t be able to do or say anything wedding related without us thinking proposal! Caught my SO watching Four Weddings the other night