- 8 years ago
Hi Girls (and Guys?),
I am Lindsey, and if my Boyfriend or Best Friend saw this post, he’d faint. Without a doubt!
I’m 25 and I’m a teacher in NJ. It’s my first year at this school and I lovelovelove it!! It’s honestly, the school I could see myself retiring in. That said, Boyfriend or Best Friend works in the city about an hour away, and lives roughly 40 minutes from me. We are a “weekend” couple and due to seriously crazy work weeks, we have to resort to week night phone calls.
Not that I totally mind this… we’ve made it work fine and honestly, I’m so tired at the ends of my work days that I can’t imagine really going out on dates and such. He works in pro sports and during the seasons (which is right now) works up to 70 hour weeks. It’s a miracle we make it work but we do! Somehow.
October 12th will be our two year anniversary and we have a nice dinner, hotel stay, and brunch in the city planned for the weekend after [because he will be away for work the weekend of. :(] This is exciting to me, but I know not to get my hopes up.
Three weeks ago, we broke up for two days. It was over the phone and mainly because I was pressuring him about the future. He is the type of man who lives day by day. He can’t often imagine things down the road. He’s like this is most aspects of his life, except with his career goals. Right now I make quite a bit more money than he does, and I know that that plays a part in how ready he is to settle down. After two days apart he came over to my place and told me he thinks he can compromise, i.e. be more affectionate and loving, and open to the future, because “we’ve come way way too far to just give up.”
Things have been great since! I know I sound forcefully optimistic, but I assure you that during those two days we were broken up, I convinced myself it was for the best. That I can’t change what I want it is what it is! I often go back and forth about whether or not he’ll EVER cave and work less and make his relationship #1. I think when he’s truly ready, he will.
Moreover, I am probably crazy for making engagement chicken and hook him apple pie [he loves apple pie!!]. I am really not expecting an engagement, especially since he’s been so honest about his fears for the future. He’s never led me to believe it’s definitely going to happen, but he knows where I stand and he loves me enough to not let me go, so it seems.
I want to make the two magic recipes this weekend. I have been reading the threads about it. Has anyone found it worked when they totally weren’t expecting it to? I will probably alter the recipe just slightly. The apple pie one looks fabulous though. I guess I am wondering if any of you have any tips to pull this off without a hitch? I am a pretty decent cook, if I do say so myself!
This got way too wordy, I apologize; I am an English teacher!