- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
Ok, Guys. I am new and offically WAITING! I didn’t even know that is what you call it! I am so happy I found this website!
Ok here is my story. I feel I will be able to not let this “WHEN!?” question sufficate my brain if I can get my thoughts out here.
So My SO and I have been together for almost 5 years and have seen 3 couples meet, get engaged, 1 couple has been married for 1 year already, the other couple is going to be married in early August and the last couple is due for next year but I don’t think they will make it to the altar, realistically. I honestly think we are the happiest of the three couples, with the ones getting married this year coming in a very close second. SO WHY DO I NOT HAVE A RING ON MY FINGER!? He tells his friends he wants to marry me. I know this because he tells me he says so. It’s a money issue, they say. I get it. Times are tight. We are both in The Arts but have stable Day-Jobs. So we get by. We don’t have any kids right now and that is making our relationship easier fiancially. The rent and bills are always paid and there is always food in the fridge. So that’s good enough, right?! Right!
My SO has never let me think he had any doubts about marrying me. He says he wants to. And I believe him. I showed him the rings I like and kept it under $2,000, which, really, I am well worth. I have always been penny conscious and it has always served us well. I think I deserve a ring about 2 Grand, to wear….FORVER! But, recently have been looking at rings around 1 months rent of $1,200, which is more then resonable. I always wanted a sapphire ring. I sometimes can’t stand to look at diamonds but am constantly re-thinking that decision. He has the link to my Pintrest. He can see what i am thinking if he choses to.
We are taking our first real vacation for leasure Wednesday and I am offically WAITING! This will be the first time I will be meeting his Mother face-to-face as well as his grand-parents, who we will be staying with. We speak online and have a relationship on Facebook and his mom kindly refers to me as D-I-L (for Daughter-In-Law) and I affectionatly call her M-I-L. I spoke to his grandmother and grandfather once on the phone and we got off to a great start, so I just hope to carry that over to real life. My hope is that they adore me so much that they will be dragging my SO to the Jewler. So I just going to be charming. Leave him plenty of time to be with his family and catch up, because this is not our engagement trip. This is me meeting his family and him spending time with them. This is a test if I ever saw one. His mom scheduled to have the whole week off that we were there, so I have no idea how tha will be, so I am choosing to be possitive. ANyway, I am going to enjoy the sun, and the surf and my time away from work. and If he pops the question, then great. If not, then there is still our anniversay in August. A week right after our very close friends tie the knot, the following night being a huge birthday bash for myself and our other close friend who is the Best Man at the upcoming wedding our our friends. So there are 4 events that are protential proposals. After which there needs to be a serious conversation. The only think stopping him proposing is if he is intening to wait for NEXT YEAR’s tax return to buy it. But if that is the question then we need to have a realistic convo if he is intending to have me wait that long.
I have been so sad lately. I feel like Jennifer Anderson’s character in ‘He’s Just Not That Into You’. Every moment that I do not have the ring on my finger is killing me. I am just he understands how much it means to me. How much I am sufficating under the title of Girlfriend. DON’T CALL ME YOUR GF!
Anyway, I think I ran out of steam. Wish me luck and put in some good mojo vibes for a ring on this trip!
Thanks again for listening!