(Closed) New Wardrobe! Help on outfits/shopping… completely helpless…

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Post # 3
786 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@LynnSnow:  insert a few images of things you like and then insert a few images of things you would actually wear on a normal every day…mite help us get an idea of where you should start, im not going to tell you get all fancy pants if your a jeans girl!

Post # 5
46596 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 Let’s boil it down to 23 basic items you should have:

  • Black tank. A white tank has its place—at the gym or on casual outings—but a black one is more universal than its casual white cousin. Black tanks with a longer length can be worn underneath blouses and button downs for seasonal layering, but can also be dressed up with nice jeans or a skirt.

  • Short-sleeved black T-shirt. The best short-sleeve length is about 1/2 to 1 inch longer than a typical cap sleeve—it shows just the right amount of arm.

  • Long-sleeved black T-shirt. A surprisingly sophisticated and useful layering piece, this works well under a dress shirt, a sweatshirt, a sweater, a dress, a jumper, or even on it’s own with a blazer and great accessories.

  • Black turtleneck. Invest in a decent quality fabric. You get more warmth with less bulk.

  • Short-sleeved white T-shirt. White tees become dingy quickly, so skip the expensive ones and buy a bunch of nice-looking, inexpensive ones. Then replace as needed.

  • Long-sleeved white T-shirt. For a slim silhouette in white, choose a slim-fit T-shirt that skims your body but doesn’t cling (especially for those of us seasoned mamas with a leftover muffin top)!


  • White button-down shirt (wrinkle free stretch fabric is great). Fitted ones will get the most wear: They’re easier to tuck in and look neat when left out.

  • Crisp white blouse. Softer looking than a button-down, a white blouse is a timeless addition to any wardrobe.


Crewneck sweater. Thin knits, in cotton or wool, layer easily for versatility and comfort.


  • Neutral Cardigan. A neutral shade goes with everything, and a longer style that hits at the hip flatters most figures.

  • A black dress. The “little black dress” is a cliché for a reason: It’s a wardrobe necessity.

  • Pencil skirt. This classic piece should be tailored so it grazes the tops of the knees. If you are larger in the hips or have a tummy, and don’t feel comfortable in a fitted skirt, try an a-line that flares out slightly at the knees.

  • Jeans. It’s worth paying extra for jeans that fit and flatter. Your best bet? A dark, bootcut pair made from stretch denim with no more than 2 percent Lycra. (The fabric will follow your curves while keeping its shape.)

  • Black dress pants. To get the most from this wardrobe staple, select a style made of an all-season fabric.

  • Skinny jeans. Once considered a trend, they are now a really useful denim staple. Skinny jeans look best when they don’t fit too snugly at the waist. And yes, these are for all body types! It’s seriously about what you pair with them on top.

  • Khaki pants. For a casual, comfortable look, forget the pleats (a flat front is more flattering) and forgo the front crease.

  • Denim jacket. A dark wash and a slim fit look the most polished.

  • Cropped jacket. this item has become a fashion mainstay. You’ll have more opportunities for pairing if you get one in a solid color.

  • Classic Blazer. A must-have in black, navy or grey.

  • Ballet flats (in a neutral color or a versatile red). Equal parts sophisticated and practical, ballet flats, especially those with rubber soles and a good instep, are easy on the feet but more polished than sneakers.

  • Basic black pumps. The workhorse of shoes, a good black pump can take you from day into evening without losing a step.

  • Supportive sneakers. I don’t care how old you are or what you do, you have to take care of your feet. After years of dancing, having a solid sneaker is important for everything from taking a walk with your kids to exercising. Forget the Converse or other archless, flat insoled shoes. Make sure you get a pair that really hug your arch and give you the support you need. This is not about fashion!

  • Metallic evening shoes. No shoes make you more party-ready than strappy sandals or pumps in a metallic tone. The surprise? Gold and silver are remarkably versatile.

  • Wellies if you need them where you ive.

With these basic pieces you can creat a multitude of outfits. Add scarves, other blouses etc as you build the wardrobe.

Post # 7
46596 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@LynnSnow:  I don’t know where you live, and I live in Canada so our stores are  different. When I shop in the USA, for classics I like Macy’s. Banana Republic and Ann Taylor have great classics that are great for business wardrobes. Even though you work at home, you may find some of those core pieces there also.

Post # 9
1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

I always suggest basic and neutral accessories so you can mix and match and get more for you money. I have all of my accessories (shoes, belts, headbands) sorted by color into: black, brown, gold, silver, and bronze.

Also one thing I found that is very helpful, look at well-dressed women who have your body type and you can pick up on the little things. For example, I have an hourglass figure, so I play that up with a belt to cinch in my waist or tops that are narrow in that area.

I also only shop at a handful of stores because I know they will always have something that flatters me. I pretty much exlusively shop at Anthropologie, PacSun (for the skinny jeans!), and Modcloth.com (an exlusively online store). 

Post # 10
5955 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Girl, forget the internet, you need to just got to the store and try things on.  If you have a fashionable friend who’d enjoy acting as your personal shopper, that’d be a lot of fun.  Otherwise, tell the sales associate what your looking for and ask her to bring you option in your size.  If you go to the right store, they’ll have sales people who will really ejoy helping you.

First thing is to choose stores with good quality stuff that happens to fit your body.  (Aka, skip Target and Old Navy, think more like Macy/department stores, Banana Republic, whatever nice botiques they have in your are). 

Second, create a list of needs.  For example, a basic wardrobe makeover might include

 – a good pair of jeans 

 – a great fitting pair of skinny pants

 – nice black dress pants

 – a pencil skirt

 – minimum 2 sweaters

 – minimum 3 new blouses 

 – a sharp looking winter jacket

 – a great new pair of knee high boots

 – a comfortable but cute pair of heels

 – a new purse

 – some accessories.  Hats, scarves, and jewlery are what takes any outfit to the next level.

(These items are based on my body type and lifestyle, might be differnt for you)

Then just go shop!  Find items that fit you well, are good quality, and have classic lines and features.  Try things on together to see if they look good.  In this day and age where all clothes are seperates it’s really not difficult to mix and match.  Challenge yourself to try on things in the store that you wouldn’t normally consider.  Some will confirm that that look is not for you, some may surprise you by looking great.

Post # 11
1835 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

@LynnSnow:  How fun! And congrats on getting fit, that must feel so great!

Here are my go-to’s (I hate spending money on clothes and don’t like to have a closet overflowing with cheap clothes, so I’ve been relying on these staples for a long time):

-2 to 3 pairs of dark-wash (very dark blue) skinny jeans. My favorite pair is James Jeans which I ordered on sale from bluefly.com for like $30 or $40. I don’t care about designer dresses/skirts/shirts but I will splurge for a good pair of designer jeans. I bought a pair of $180 jeans when I was 16 (a whole paycheck at the time!) and they STILL look great almost 10 years later, no joke. My favorite brands are Paige Jeans, Joe Jeans, Seven for Mankind, Citizens for Humanity, and Hudsons. I usually buy jeans on sale at Nordstrom Rack.

-1 pair of skinny black jeans. Sometimes it’s fun to mix things up, and black jeans are super stylish and very slimming. My favorite pair of black skinny jeans is also from James Jeans.

-1 pair of nude heels. Always flattering – I wear mine 2-3 days a week to work, and I can wear them going out too. Mine are pointy-toed, and close-toed, so they’re conservative enough for work but they’re cute at the same time.

-1 pair of leather riding boots. These are always stylish in fall/winter and look great with your skinny jeans. Sooo comfy too – when we are on vacation in a cold place, I can walk for miles in my boots! DSW has great selection of shoes and boots, I bought one of my pairs there. If you don’t have a DSW nearby, you should try ordering shoes and boots from Zappos.com – they have free returns and super fast service. I’ve tried out multiple shoes from there before deciding on one; with the free returns you don’t end up wasting a cent if you don’t like them or if they’re the wrong size.

-A few neutral-colored v-neck cotton Ts. Based on the photos you posted above, it looks like you like some earthy/neutral colors. V-necks are great in the summer with shorts, great in the fall with a scarf, you can really wear them year-round. The most flattering ones aren’t skin-tight – I get mine a little loose. The ones I wear most often are a black v-neck and a sandy tan-colored v-neck. A white one is also helpful for layering and can look good under any colored cardigan! Old Navy or Target are good places to check for v-necks. 

-A few cardigans or sweaters. My favorites I’ve bought off the sale rack at J. Crew. You can get cute cardis everywhere, but I’d say make sure you like the way they fit (not too baggy!) and get a few neutral colors (like black or gray) to wear with lots of different outfits. 

-Lots of sleeveless and shortsleeved blouses. I wear the same black and gray pants and skirts to work everyday and just change the shirts – it’s so much simpler that way. And I’ll wear these out on the weekends with blazers. Banana Republic and J. Crew always have cute blouses, since you don’t live near them you could order off their websites – I’ve always found their sizes to be pretty accurate and with blouses you don’t usually need a super exact size since they’re not form-fitting.

-A large gold or silver oversized watch. These are so much fun and help accessorize anything – I don’t wear bracelets, I just wear my big silver watch haha 🙂

-Treat yourself to some statement jewelry, I’d stay away from Forever 21 if you’re looking for more  sophisticated clothes but they have tons of cute cheap jewelry. Get a few long necklaces and some fun earrings. F21 has some cute cheap scarves, too.

What part of the country do you live in? I’m just curious if you have cold winters or not, because if so that’ll affect the “staples” that you need.

Post # 12
1151 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@LynnSnow:  Not super fashion savvy here but when I do need new clothes I go to the mall on a slow week day & pick a store like Express, Macys, Nordstrom, etc, somewhere where you can get help by an associate & have the following conversation, “I really need new (insert item here) help please.” and then I go straight to the dressing room & they bring stuff to me. I’d start with the staples, every day jeans, jeans you can dress up & tops. Once you have a good base move on to the accessories (sweaters, scarves, etc.) Good luck! I love it when Darling Husband says I should go shopping for new clothes, it makes me SO happy! 

Post # 13
8599 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Express is probably my favorite store at the moment. Macys is good too. What else do you have in your area?

Post # 14
316 posts
Helper bee

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Post # 16
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LynnSnow:  I was totally going to come on the boards to start a very similar post! Congratulations on geting a rocking bod!

I am the same age as you, and have a job teaching english to business people in France. I don’t have to be too dressed up, but not too casual either…so I feel like I should buy some more pieces and that way I can bump up my look on the weekends and during the workweek. However, like you I don’t know how to shop for myself. It seems French ladies usually look quite nice and feminin, and I don’t really fit in because I’ve never worn heels, little boots etc.

Have you made any new purchases of clothing for ‘another girl’ yet? I think I’m going to go try today…but there is also the question of money! If you have any style tips I’m interested…!

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