Post # 16
Me and my DH have our alone time together. He plays video games. I watch trash tv on my tablet and every so often we yell ‘love you’ across the room. We both get to do our own thing minus the lonely part. Suggest that to your SO. It seems wrong that he doesn’t want to share the night with you.
Post # 17
Dick move. And based on your previous post, it seems like your SO is sending clear signs that he is just not that into you
Post # 18
He won’t spend NYE with you? Definitely not a good sign. I don’t know if it’s a planning issue or a relationship issue.
He would have to be pretty clueless not to realize you spend NYE with your SO, if you have one.
Or the PP is right, he’s just not that into you.
Post # 19
Am I missing something? Your SO would rather sit at home alone playing video games than do vitually the exact same thing with you…. At this point I’d take a hint. He can’t be that into you.
Post # 20
ha ha! That makes me laugh!
Post # 21
- Wedding: October 2019 - City, State
Aqua59: ummmm most definitely not. I would not tolerate that. NYE is supposed to be spent with someone you care about. Be it friends, family, children, or more typically your SO. I would be absolutely livid if my SO was choosing to spend NYE (specifically midnight) at home alone rather than with me. In fact, I would be suspicious of someone who was willing to spend the day time hours with me that day but didn’t want to spend the evening hours with me. OP i would be way pushier about this. Especially since he never has this night off. And the one time he does, rather than spend it with you he’s gonna play video games or sit at home alone? ummmm most definitely not. Grow a pair OP and instead of treading lightly around him ask for what you want. You aren’t unreasonable for wanting to spend NYE with your SO, he’s unreasonable for not wanting to spend it with you. Geez….
Post # 22
Thanks everyone for letting me vent it all out and giving me great advice! My SO has an extremely withdrawn and reclusive personality and I entered the relationship knowing this and I chose to be with him regardless of this so I’m not worried about it being suspicious or anything. I just need to vent a little sometimes when our differing personalities have a little clash like this. I almost changed our day plans so he could have his alone time then spend new years together but I decided that I’d rather get to spend my time with him in the day like he’d prefer, and take the opportunity to spend some fun one on one time with my mom tonight. 🙂
Post # 23
I agree that he’s probably clueless. Just tell him like the previos poster said. Guys don’t get hints.
Post # 24
I mean, I can understand that, because my husband is majorly introverted, hates big celebrations, and if it was up to him he’d go to bed at 8pm on NYE.. Whereas I’d be quite happy to go out to a party. The compromise is, we’ll stay in, open a bottle of champagne, play board games and/or watch a movie, and go out to watch fireworks at midnight.
I really think your SO should be willing to compromise on this as well. Even if he wanted to play video games, there is no reason why he couldn’t be around you, play video games somewhere and then spend some quality time with you at midnight.
It’s nice that you’ll get to spend time with your mom, but I still think your SO should make more of an effort.
Post # 25
him being introverted still doesn’t explain why he can’t have an entire day to himself and then shower and head to your place at 8 for a nice dinner and a kiss at midnight.
if he actually told you that he thinks ordering in and watching movies with you is boring and he would rather be alone than doing those activities with you – you need a new boyfriend. most of your life will not be giant holidays and special ‘things’ – it’ll be hanging out, doing largely ‘nothing’ – but it will be great because the two of you can have fun together doing anything….except he can’t. because he thinks watching movies and having dinner with you is boring.
Post # 26
WTF. I would be pissed if my SO decided he’d rather spend NYE in alone than with me. The saying goes that you spend your year how you spend your NYE. So that means he’ll be ditching you for games a lot.. This would NEVER fly with me. It’s a holiday. he has no real plans, he just doesn’t want to spend the holiday with you…
Post # 27
glad to hear you worked something out and are now comfortable with your plans 🙂 hope you have a great day together!