Post # 31
Idealistically NYE in Paris sounds awesome! I shared this idea with my wallet….we laughed and laughed….yeah, no can do unless it’s immediate family or long time best friend. We already spend a good amount of $$$ traveling to see long distance loved ones, so our travel $$ are pretty maxed out most years, ditto our vaca time from work (we both have the Christmas holidays off but this is generally one of the times we travel to see family or we host them)….we manage perhaps 1 solely-for-vacation trip every 2 years. So besides the exhorbitant costs of a hotel NYE, we’d have to miss holiday plans with family and use up our entire discretionary travel budget- that’s a lot to ask.
Post # 32
I would if it was a family member or close friend. Probably not if it was a colleague or aquaintence.
However, you will have the same problem if you have the wedding in the US, with his side from france being less likely to come. So just have it where you want, because you will be missing people you wanted there either way.
Post # 34
I would really want to and would try hard to make it, and I’d certainly rather go to this than some cookie cutter AI Caribbean wedding, but I think I’d have an easier time attending if not on NYE and during a less busy time of year like spring or fall
Post # 35
Nope. Wouldn’t do it. It would take too much time and money. I’d do it for family because they would be who I’m seeing at that time of year (but that would be all our spare cash for the year)
Post # 36
I’d *want* to, but that doesn’t always line up with my wallet lol. I’d have to see how much flights and hotels would cost, and being THE most expensive time to travel it might have to be a no
Post # 37
I would want to be there, and if it were a sibling or best friend I would make it work – but otherwise I probably wouldn’t be able to swing it.
Having it in Paris is already a big inconvenience for half of the guests so it seems almost cruel to make it even more expensive and inconvenient by putting it on a holiday. It’s also not the greatest weather to be there for. It would be VERY magical for those with deep pockets and a flexible schedule, but a bit unkind to the rest.
I know you have to have some form of destination wedding since the family is so spread out, but could you do some time in Spring or Fall instead?
Post # 38
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
Living in Ontario we would travel to Paris for a New Year’s wedding if we could afford to go and if we each had at least two weeks of vacation time. I think that it’s very important in supporting family and friends throughout their lives
Post # 39
That sounds like an amazing trip! My kid has been talking about how much he wants to go to Paris so I would likely say yes to something like this so that we could combine purposes even though I’ve been several times. And it would have to be for someone I was really close to- very best friend or close relative.
Otherwise, I don’t generally like the idea of couples assuming that guests should use their own money and vacation time to attend a wedding.
As others have said- around the holidays people have already traveled to visit family and have had a lot of holiday expenses, I think you will probably get a lot of declines.
I would look at late summer/ early Autumn, when people are returning from holidays and just before school years are getting started. Weather would be lovely (neither too hot nor too cold) and people will have been enjoying the summer so they’re in great spirits! If they’ve had a year in advance to prepare, they can plan for your wedding as part of their summer travel plan.
Post # 40
as cool as new years in paris would be, id only go if it was family getting married. Paris is expensive even during the off travel season, travel around christmas would be insanely expensive. To add, no one is going to just fly in and fly out the next day like they would a US wedding, cause no one is going to want to spend that much money attending just to spend the majority of it in an airport/plane.
Post # 41
I’d be annoyed, but I’d consider it. Honestly though, there are so many other factors that would make it hard to commit, Right now we could financially do it, but what if that changes? Right now we don’t have kids, but we’re TTC and that would make us cancel.
Plan the wedding you want, but just know the location and timing will make it difficult for your US-based guests.
Post # 42
I just wanted to add that if half the guests are in the south of France anyway, it’s probably better to have the wedding there. Its a place people are more likely to vacation in and so might be able to swing it as their family vacation for the year (at a weather friendlier time)
Post # 43
beeeyonce144444 : I think you will lose even more guests since this is actually a delayed reception, from what you’ve said. If people are your true priority I would consider two receptions, one in France where you live and one in California.
Post # 44
It sounds like a great time and we have a lot of frequent flier miles and hotel points. And we’d probably still decline, because between holidays at home and having to be back at work and kids back at school Jan 2 it would be too short a trip to make it worth the cost.
Post # 45
beeeyonce144444 : I’d pass, too expensive and travel around the holidays is a huge hassle.
We went to a wedding over a holiday weekend once – never again.