New Years Eve Wedding in Paris- would you attend?

posted 1 year ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 61
2358 posts
Buzzing bee

There is no way that I would go, even if it were my best friend. We haven’t the funds. Its as simple as that. 

Post # 62
48 posts
  • Wedding: May 2019

It would be so busy in Paris around New Years. I don’t like Paris at the best of times (controversial, I know) but I can’t imagine how irritating it would be to travel there during the holiday season. It would also be cutting into time with my family around the holidays, so unless they were going to be there I’d likely decline. 

Even though I would be going to a destination wedding to celebrate the couple, I’d want to see a bit of the place I was travelling to as well if I am going to pay upwards of $1000 for a flight and hundreds of dollars on a hotel room. Mid-January or February would probably be a lot nicer. 

Post # 63
631 posts
Busy bee

I think it’s important to separate out some issues here.


1) A wedding in Paris, for you, is absolutely not a ‘destination wedding’, and all the common criticisms of destination weddings cannot and should not be levied.

2) However, that doesn’t change the base cost for people that live far from Paris. But, that is what is it – you live in Paris. That means having a wedding where you live is by definition going to be expensive for people that live in the US. Some people are likely not going to be able to afford the costs, but that’s not your *fault* in the same way intentionally choosing a difficult location like Bali would be.

3) A NYE wedding would seem to add additional costs onto the base, though, as I’m sure flights to Paris from the US, and accommodations *in* Paris are significantly more expensive during that time. I don’t know how much cost that really adds to the equation, but I’d focus on that addition w/r/t the date more than any other part of this.

4) I have a perpetual concern about NYE weddings in that it’s so very close to holidays that a lot of people want to spend with their family members. Some people even have to jam multiple family obligations into that short holiday time period. If someone’s already trying to juggle their own parents in Cali and their in-laws in Chicago, and then a Paris NYE wedding on top of that….it could get hairy. (Now, if you’re mostly talking about your own family members who would presumably want to be together anyway, maybe it’s not as big a concern?)


Post # 65
727 posts
Busy bee

I would slightly be more inclined to go on March if I don’t have any kids (flights and hotel will be low season prices), or early May (kids just finish school, right before high season). Would inclined not to go if NYE due to time and cost constraints

Post # 66
128 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Being in Paris on NYE sounds amazing! That said, if I am going to have the opportunity to spend NYE in Paris, and have figured out the financials/logistics, I would want to spend the evening on my own terms ringing in the new year. I actually have nothing against destination weddings, and if I had an invitation to a friend’s wedding in Paris any other time of the year I would jump at the chance to go. I just abhor holiday weddings and I think NYE weddings are the worst of all. 


There are so many other times of year aside from summer and NYE to have your wedding in Paris. What about spring? So lovely in Paris! Or fall, if you are hoping to save money? Is there another reason for choosing NYE? 

Post # 67
983 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s super romantic but I’d probably decline. Too hectic around the holidays and I already drop a ton of cash. Not to mention I live in Minnesota, and no way do I wan to take a vacation to a cold place in December – for winter vacations I head to the beach! 😀

Post # 68
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I think asking strangers is probably not that useful as this is a mainly US board and everyone is going to say no/too far etc. If you planned it in US and then asked a European board they would probably all say no i’m not going to the US too far/expensive etc.

Your situation is different as you have two sides that you can’t please. You say you have discussed things with family and they are willing to come so that is the most important thing, i’m sure closest friends will also try. Work colleagues/ more distant friends probably won’t but they might not come if it is any location. Unfortunately when two families are from 2 different places you can’t do much, unless you guys have 2 weddings. One main one in Paris and then another smaller one in the US for all those who couldn’t make it? 

Post # 69
1262 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I would respectfully decline as the trip would be quite expensive and Paris isn’t on my bucket list, so I wouldn’t be making a vacation out of it. Since I’m based in the U.S., it would be less of a hassle to travel to a Caribbean destination wedding. In addition, I’m more of a drink on a nice beach kind of traveler, so making a vacation out of a Caribbean destination wedding would be more appealing. 

Post # 70
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I would also decline.  I cherish my holiday leave and use that time to do something special with my FH or my family.  I wouldn’t let your wedding dictate my holiday plans for the year.  Sorry bee…

Post # 71
666 posts
Busy bee

I would totally go. Family gets Christmas every year. And a wedding is only once in a lifetime. Weddings always trump holidays in my opinion. 

Post # 72
258 posts
Helper bee

I’m in Europe so I wouldn’t need that much time off, but flights and hotels around that time are quite expensive, especially as you get closer to the date, and airports are incredibly busy – I try to avoid traveling around the holidays if possible. I’m not too fussed about Paris, but would probably go if it was a family member’s or close friend’s wedding.

Post # 73
631 posts
Busy bee


beeeyonce144444 :  So, flights might only be $50 difference if you booked right this second. But they often get more expensive as you get closer to a holiday, and often times people can’t actually book until a bit closer because of all the planning and arranging that has to be done because it’s a holiday.

I run into this all the time with something as simple as a flight from NYC to TX for the holidays. I can’t book until I understand how my work schedule is really going to be (what projects are going to be rolling in December, when am I really going to be fully ‘free’, and what about my husband’s job, and oh wait, when is Mom driving up to see her sister?). It’s totally reasonably priced well in advance, but by the time I *actually* know when I’m able to fly, the prices have shot up considerably.

Just a thought.

Post # 74
9580 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

beeeyonce144444 :  I’d go if it was a close friend or family member, or if Paris were on my shortlist for travel in the next 5 years or so. 

I’d also be much more willing to go if I lived on the east coast. Flying to Europe from the east coast is so much easier than the west–I grew up on the east coast and would go to Europe to see family 1-3x a year every year growing up, now that I’m on the west coast I’ve been back twice in 6 years. :-/

I wouldn’t do any of this for a colleague, if I didn’t also think of them as a friend first and foremost.

Post # 75
1129 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I would love to go but realistically traveling during the holiday season is quite expensive. If money wasn’t an issue, sure. I should add, I’d only do this for immediate family or best friend. Colleagues or friends, no. Too much hassle. 

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