Post # 1
I just really needed to vent.
My SO and i have been fighting on and off for the past 12 months about getting engaged/married and when etc and last year i found out he had bought a ring 18months prior – coming up to 2 years now!! Driving me insane!
In the spirit of not letting myself worry about something that just stresses me out i made a new years resolution to SO and to myself that i wouldnt talk specifically about us and getting engaged/married. But what i failed to realise is that it is REALLY REALLY HARD!!
Im tempted just to take the ring and start wearing it one day!!’
Sorry everyone, just needed to vent.
I think that the weddingbee site will be my saviour in getting through!!
Good luck to everyone else in similar situations
Post # 3
It sounds like you have taken your relationship focus from “being together” to “waiting to be engaged”. My suggestion is to try to redefine your relationship focus to building a stronger relationship and focusing on the positives of what you have. I think that with this, engagement will come in time.
All that being said, I understand you are frustrated and it sounds like your NY resolution is well on your way to redefining your relationship from a not-so-frustrating perpective.
Post # 4
I think you need to be part of the Mr. Bee Plan!!! It will definitely help you in the waiting process as well as (hopefully) take the preassure off him to propose!
Post # 5
@Rush1986: What’s this Mr Bee plan you speak of? I am still relatively new to the site and haven’t discovered this yet
Post # 6
omg he’s had the ring almost 2 years?!?! I would FLIP OUT!
is there any special reason he’d be waiting that long?
Post # 7
the gist of mr. bee’s plan is to have your own life. go back to doing the things you did (going to the gym, hanging with friends, working late) before this guy came into your life. the more things you have going on that are not about the relationship the more attractive you are. basically, it’s easy to fall into this rut and be taken for granted. so get out there and be busy doing things!
one of my girlfriends started doing crossfit and got really into working out last summer, shortly after a big engagement blow out with her boyfriend. she’s busy busy busy doing weekend competitions and working out and really stopped worrying & nitpicking on the relationship and engagement. he just surprised her with a proposal at christmas. she had completely shifted her focus onto making herself happy and that in turn made him see again how awesome she is.
Post # 8
To echo everyone else: don’t forget about YOU! And don’t forget to enjoy the wonderful man you already have! I’m with you, waiting is freaking terrible. But enjoying the company of someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is key…and it will hopefully help him realize just how much he wants to spend the rest of his life with you! Be strong, dear!
Post # 9
@mamadingdong: sounds like a good plan! and would fit well with my other two resolutions, 1 to put my happiness first for once and 2 to lose 10kg and keep it off. Im worried that he’d be so ignorant to it all that it would backfire, but definately worth a go, i mean what have i got to lose?
@alwaysamaid: I have flipped out a lot since i found out! He wants it to be special and the right time meaning that no one else stealing our spotlight or something like that. The lack of timeline is what really gets me! Obviously he wanted to marry me enough to buy the friggin ring, but not to propoe yet. (he also has said he was ready to and plans went pear shaped before) But im really trying to turn things around this year – focua on me, like everyone is suggesting!
@Papillon23: I think you’re right – i think everyone here is right. It definatly helps to hear from other ladies who have either been there done that or are going through something similar etc
<3 this site – thankyou everyone, you’ve made me feel more calm – and determined to try this mr bee plan!
Post # 10
He has had the ring for 18 MONTHS and stilll hasn’t proposed…. because he is “waiting” for the right time?
Post # 11
just curious, how long have you been together since he has already had the ring for 2 years?
I think this site will help you a lot! it gets all your wedding thoughts out. I love it as it helps me not talk about it non stop to my co workers and stuff!!
Post # 12
@live laugh love: Coming up to our 7 year anniversary in April! and we have known each other for 10 years now