(Closed) NewBee

posted 4 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 2
787 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

omg lame/adorable/terrible pun. I guess my advice from my wedding would be as follows:

1) Don’t trust anyone who says that some invites are only ‘courtesy’ invites and that person won’t come. There’s no way of predicting how people will respond, even if you think you know.

2) Don’t share the details of the wedding with anyone whose opinion you don’t like or can’t handle. My very opinionated in-laws could not resist criticizing my personal touches

3) Show as much patience as you possibly can. Your friends who aren’t “into weddings” and your crazy neurotic future in-laws will behave totally erratically. Try to take it in stride.

4) Don’t spend money you don’t have. Don’t plan your wedding around money someone has promised you or that you hope to raise from wedding events (stag and doe, etc.). If you do accept money, be prepared to accept all the opinions/demands that come with it.

5) Stay organized. Don’t let anyone tell you you “need” three hours for photos (I got beautiful photos in 50 minutes) or that a wedding is not possible without $50,000 and a pricey wedding planning to match. 

Oh, and good luck. 😀

Post # 3
31 posts

Congrats on your upcoming wedding. I just got engaged a month and a half ago. When I start planning I’ll be able to give some advice

Post # 4
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

Hi Raven,


I’m not really sure what to write, but I do remember I had I think 0 responses to my first post and I felt a little disheartened. 


I’m Sandy and I’m from Australia. Me and my fiancee have been together for about ten years and have finally decided to make it official. 


We planned a wedding for February, but have cancelled. The stress got too much and the prospective guests were so rude. We decided we would elope on Daydream Island with our daughter this coming March. 


This was pur decision though, hopefully you won’t be swayed by rude guests or the stress. I guess it’s very different for us, we have knocked up a decade of living together and have a child together. 


I hope you continue to post, if you look at one of my previous threads about wanting to elope, the advice and support I got really helped me make the choice. I realised I was asking a question I already knew the answer to. 

Post # 5
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

RavenAVlahos:  Congrats on your graduation and engagement, and welcome! I’m just starting to plan as well, so I don’t have a whole lot of advice. One piece I want to offer is, piggybacking on @anonybee0810 , is….don’t take every single opinion on WeddingBee to heart. Most of the forum advice is very positive and it’s definitely a great community, but just like a family, not everyone will love your ideas. Take opinions and ideas into account, but don’t rely 100% on Internet opinions. Everyone here wants you to have a wonderful wedding day, though! 

Post # 6
992 posts
Busy bee

RavenAVlahos:  welcome im a fellow young bee (although i wont be marrying for around 4-5 years) but i am 21, currently a senior in college. congrats on  graduation and your engagement ! i dont have much advice except to not take things personal on the bee. and there is the occasion “older” woman (using quotes cus they arent old, just literally older, typically 30+) who may claim you’re too young etc, not even just on the Bee but IRL. so again, dont take anything personal.

welcome to to the Hive !!

Post # 7
1379 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Hi.  I’m an older Bee, 45, and getting married for the second time.  My fiance is getting married for the first time.  We are having a budget wedding by choice.  

My only advice to give is to have your wedding YOUR way.  

Sometimes I don’t get responses to my posts.  One time fellow Bees thought I was crazy for a post I made.  Make sure you let things roll off your back.  Remember everyone has an opinion just like they have a special body part.  Most everybody is super nice. Weddingbee is my new addiction.   

There are 2 Bees that come to mind that I see are EXTREMELY HELPFUL.   They have each helped me with great advice.  I hope you come across them too.  

Post # 9
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Welcome to the board!

Here are my tips/advice for you.

  • Set a budget. 
    • Don’t be swayed by all the fancy weddings you see on WB, theknot, weddingwire, or other wedding blogs. 
    • Yes, a wedding is important, but your future/financial stability is more important. Don’t blow all of your $$$ on just one day
  • Determine what is most important to you and what is most important to your Fiance in your wedding and work towards that vs. trying to make every single aspect amazing/perfect. You’ll drive yourself crazy that way.
    • No one will remember your wedding except for you and your Fiance, so it’s okay for things to not be perfect. Will your guests remember what food or table cloths were at your wedding? No, they won’t…
  • You get one day. Don’t expect everyone to be super ecstatic about your wedding from now all the way to the actual day
  • Be respectful of your wedding party’s time and $
  • Download the WedHappy phone app. It contains a list of items to complete. The Knot & Wedding Wire have lists too, but it’s beyond overwhelming for a new bride

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