Post # 1
New to the boards and excited to find some girls in a similar situation as me!
My Boyfriend or Best Friend finishes his masters degree in August and there is almost no chance of him finding a job in our current city. We have already decided that a) we have no interest in trying a LDR, b) we want to get married, and c) we want a short engagement.
We have discussed a few options, and made a few decision. The latest we will get married is December, but it could also be as soon as August. The date is further complicated by the fact that my parents live overseas and his parents/family live in a different state.
Now I am only waiting on a proposal and a ring so I can stop hiding my bridal magazines and start making some plans!
Post # 3
Welcome! Not a similar situation but waiting for my ring none the less. You have to hide your magazines? How sad for you! Hopefully, you will get your proposal soon!
Post # 4
Haha… I don’t *have* to hide them. Just don’t want him to feel like I’m ahead of myself.
He has been out of town for a conference and the other night when we talked he told me he had dinner with his best friend and that he told her she’s invited and they talked about engagement rings! I said, "well, THAT’s interesting;" to which he replied, "Just because we don’t talk about it doesn’t mean stuff isn’t going on behind the scenes…"
My birthday is in 29 days. I think that would be the perfect opprtunity to start sparkiling!
Post # 5
Welcome! Enjoy the wait and meanwhile get some awesome ideas from the bees (in secret of course 😉 )
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall
I totally understand about trying not to get ahead of yourself. I was "secretly" (or non-so-secretly-but-sort of" browsing wedding sites and boards and photos and blogs for months before our engagement. 😉
Post # 7
The anticipation is killer! Can’t wait till the big day.
Welcome to Weddingbee!
Post # 8
lol I totally hid magazine! We were together for 6 years before the proposal and we always discussed getting married. We actually did do long distance and there was time there that I had serious wedding on the brain before it happened.
Once we got engaged, Fiance was like "I’m so happy you are so excited to do all this planning!" Oh if he only knew lol…
But then there is also the "Why do you have Modern Bride from Fall 2006?" Luckily I had a friend who was published so I said I Had it to read her article (half true!)
Post # 9
Welcome to the hive, and to the Waiting board!!!
I’m waiting as well…we’re actually currently doing the LDR thing and waiting for that to be done before we get down to business. 🙂 I don’t hide my magazines…hehe. The great thing about wedding blogs is that you can’t leave them lying on a table, and they have WAY more interesting stuff in them than all those mags! Plus you save trees. Haha.
Good luck with the wait, and be sure to tell us when it happens!!
Post # 10
arrghhh…. well, Boyfriend or Best Friend informed me that he doesn’t intend to propose unti; he has a job. He said he wants us (and everyone else) to know that he is going to be able to help support us, not just be a drain on my limited paycheck. I can appreciate that. When he finds a job he’ll probably be bringing in twice as much as I make… easily. and he is really confident that he’ll find something by June or July.
He also said that he wants to wait because he can use whatever signing bonus he receives to get me the perfect ring. The ring itself is important to me because of what it means more than what it looks like or what it is worth… and he knows this. But he wants to give me something I can be proud to show off 🙂
So I am just praying for a speedy job offer in the city of our dreams so we can get this show on the road.
Meanwhile I am VERY glad I found this site! Any others you guys would suggest?
~ Miss Rain
Post # 11
- Wedding: October 2009 - Church Ceremony/Reception at The Waterford House
Welcome! I’m so happy to see another person from Austin 🙂 In addition to Weddingbee… I’m also addicted to:
Style Me Pretty, A Practical Wedding, Once Wed, Brooklyn Bride, Offbeat Bride
Post # 12
welcome aboard! i’m in a similar situation. my guy and i are in an ldr and are trying to settle on a state to live in and for him to find a more stable job [he currently freelances] because he wants to be able to provide for us as well.
i’ve been planning the wedding off and on for a couple years now but that’s because i just love planning period. i don’t buy mags, i’m primarily online since it’s much easier to just use google notebook to "clip" articles!
good luck with the wait! i started off well and now…now not so much. lol.
Post # 13
@beagle Yay, glad to see there are some other folks from Austin on here! Thanks for the site recs. I am already an SMP fan…. may be how I found WeddingBee.
@tea I am mostly online, too, but every once in a while when I have the evening to myself I put on a girly movie and whip out the few mags I have. It’s definitely a guilty pleasure!
Post # 14
Girl, I feel ya! We are just waiting on him to get a job as well (because we couldn’t survive on my salary), and once he does, I’m getting that ring!! We already have a lot planned, nothing official, but we don’t want to have a long engagement (because we don’t live together) so we figured we’ll plan now so that when we actually do get engaged, we’ll be ready! And these past couple of days, we’ve heard some good news about jobs, so we’re praying and keeping our fingers crossed!! Good luck with your man’s job too!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
I feel your pain and can completelty relate…I already know that he purchased the ring over a month ago…The issue that he is having now is trying to make it a surprise…he didn’t realize how difficult my knowing would make this. Now he tells me he is contemplating bringing the ring back so that I won’t know when he picks it up again that way when there is a special occasion I won’t automatically assume he is going to propose since I won’t think he has the ring. I am frustrated and got super upset that he is thinking about bringing it back…makes me wish I never knew it existed.
Post # 16
Last night Mr. Rain and I spent some time talking about wedding venues. I had done some research and found out that deposits can be pretty steep! AND they have lists of rules you have to follow (i.e. you must use our organist, unless it’s raining and your middle name begins with the letter Q, etc). So we start googling places and talking about what we would want from a venue. We even found somewhere that would fit our budget and tastes. Afterwards the conversation naturally progressed to things like attendants and costs and other detaily things… then, just before we said goodnight, he told me that he was fine with me planning whatever I want, even though he hasn’t proposed yet.
This is exciting! It basically means I can stop hiding the magazines (*grin*) and really start looking at our budget and what options are available to us. There is still a lot I can’t do, but it’s nice to have stuff to keep me busy while I wait for him to get HIS stuff in order and propose!