Post # 1
Dearest Lovely Fellow Bees,
I’ve got a bunch of random questions that I would really appreciate some answers to.. Any comments appreciated!!
– I have 2 sisters and 1 best friend.. can I make them all MOH’s if I can’t decide who’s closest to me? I have 3 other bridesmaids, making 6 in my bridal party
– Who pays for the wedding these days? I’ve heard that the couple pays sometimes… do brides’ parents still pay for everything?
– What do you girls think of a Sat/Sun afternoon wedding? Or destination weddings?
– FI’s parents think it’s best to have a very “practical” wedding, being that it’s only one night. My parents think it’s okay to splurge a little since it’ll only happen once in your life..? What to do…
I have wayyyy too many questions!
Post # 3
First of all, welcome!
Second, its the 21st century, if you want 3 Maid/Matron of Honor… the have 3… if you want 300… then have 300. its your day. Dont start trying to please anybody but yourself.
as for who pays for the wedding, it will really depend on your family. Mine and FIs parents are in no position to be paying for our wedding so most of the funds are coming from ourselves. my mom has helped out a bit by paying off the balance on my dress.
Fi and I are having a destination wedding, and most people will think/assume that it will be easier but its hard… a lot of guests may not be able to go, and you normally cant have food tastings or view the venue in advance. it is a full game of trust between yourself and your destinaton resort/hotel. i do recommend that you hire a planner to take care of any unforseen circumstances if you choose a Destination Wedding. you can message me if you have more questions about this
Good luck girl and congrats
Post # 4
1) Your bridal party, your call how you organize them. No one says you have to follow tradition.
2) It depends on the family. If you want a wedding be ready to pay for it. If either side of the family offer you help be greatful.
3) You have to book your venue way in advance if you want a Saturday wedding during peak wedding season. Sunday weddings tend to be shorter. Destination weddings are intimate but can be expensive per person.
4) You figure out what your budget is… what you and Fiance are willing to spend and can spend on a wedding. Also figure out what you want to your wedding to look like. Do some reasearch and figure out how much each thing will cost. Build a budget for each item: venue, dress, flowers, decor, paper, dj, photographer etc. And find ways to save money! You’ll find lots of tips on wedding bee.
5) Stay calm and enjoy it 🙂
Post # 5
Yep, up to you to do whatever the heck you want for your bridal party. Have 3 guys if you wanted! But make sure your fiancé is cool with whatever you decide of course.
For paying, totally depends. Our parents have both offered to pay although I started out planning as if we would be getting zero help. But I’m from a very well off family and the oldest of two daughters (first married) so my parents are beyond excited to do this for me.
And yep – start looking for venues now! We booked 22 months in advance and the venue was already half full for two years away. So it’s especially important if you want a popular place or have your heart set on a specific date.
I’m all about being practical but it is also a once in a lifetime thing (hopefully). Photography is super important to me, although I shopped around and got an amazing deal. Decorations are less important as our venue is already gorgeous and it doesn’t need much else.
Have fun planning!
Post # 6
Thanks, ladies! It’s nice to have this website, isn’t it? So grateful for internet…!
Congrats to you both, as well!!