Post # 1
So I am new to all this, as you can probably tell, but have been quite intrigued by Wedding Bee for the past few weeks. So here’s my question – HOW DO YOU KNOW? I have a severe case of “Type A” personality. I over analyze everything. 90% of the time I end up putting things back, and not spending the money on myself because “it’s not needed”; however I feel like I deserve to splurg a little and enjoy everything about my wedding day.
I am current stuck between a rock and a hard place when it comes to chosing a venue… especially finding the middle ground between the budget that was discussed and finding something that I truly love.
We have looked at about 6 venues so far that fall on the lower end of the budget and nothing has come close to peaking my interest. I know at the end of the day any of them will work, but I don’t want to settle. Well, today was the day! I found a venue that I absolutely love… but come to find out, it is substantially more than we have been planning on spending. The feeling I got when we looked at this venue was perfect. I have money to contribute, and part of me feels that I would do whatever it takes out of my own pocket to make my wedding day everything I’ve hoped it would be… but is it worth it in the long run?
Post # 3
I think it depends on what your priorities are. I really like my venue and I love it for the price, but there was one venue that I found and absolutely loved but was way over budget. So I settled for the other venue but got to splurge a little on my dress, my wedding band, I got an open bar, and we upgraded our package with our photographer because to me those were more important than the venue. It really just depends on what is most important to you.
Post # 4
I really loved my venue but it was more expensive than most of the other places I looked. I compromised on my wedding date (changed from April to March) and got a discount. I also booked the least popular room at the place but FH and I loved it a lot more than most of the rooms there! So as PP said, its up to what is important to you and if/what you’re willing to compromise on.
Post # 5
I agree with the other bees, I comes down to what you want. For me, I am type A and have spreadsheets for almost everything….anyway 🙂 the venue we picked was a historic mansion and it is perfect for us mostly because we are able to choose and have flexibility later on. For example, our wedding is 14 months away, if we sign a contract with a hotel with a minimum food and bev. charge of $17,000, then that is it…if our guest list changes, we decide to spend less, etc…we are committed to that amount. With our venue, we committ to a small rental fee and can pick our own caterer, spending as much or as little as we want as our date nears. For us, a mansion was perfect but urban lofts, museums, parks, etc may be more your style. The flexiblitity of the venue helped my type A nature so it may help you too. Best of luck!
Post # 6
I would make a list of what’s most important to you – say, the 3 biggest things – and what’s least important. Oh, and pros and cons for each venue.
You should really have a venue that you love, and if this one is going to bust significantly into your budget, maybe it’s just not quite the right one? How many more options do you have to consider?
Post # 7
@JGR64: I’m type A. No, actually i’m TYPE A and then some. I do the exact same thing. I never buy anything unless I really need it, and I will get a lot of use out of it. I worry and over-analyze every purchase. So imagine me when it’s time to purchase things for my wedding, something that is ONE DAY ONLY!
So from one Type A soul to another, here is my best advice. Go with your gut. My second choice in venue was $1500 cheaper, but I just didn’t feel right about it. I didn’t feel that it was pretty enough to get married in. Secondly, I also justified my decision to pay more for the venue I have now because the cheaper venue didn’t come with as many included services. I knew I would have to spend more time looking for vendors that the cheaper venue did not cover.
Remember for the TYPE A soul PEACE OF MIND IS PRICELESS. Our brains don’t give us any rest, so pick the venue that puts you at ease the most. It’s worth it!
Post # 8
- Wedding: January 2012 - Vallecito Lake
If you can rework anything, do it! I did this for my wedding dress…I sucked up the price by myself because it was something I was willing to do. The venue is a huge element of the wedding, obviously, and if you know your tendencies go with the one you fall.in.love.with!