Post # 1
Greetings to everyone! I’m a newbee (I guess is the term?).
So, I’m newly engaged (just last month) and while I am terribly excited and happy, since I started working on planning I’m also exceedingly overwhelmed! My Fiance wants to have a summer wedding and suggested June or July (he’s a wonderful man and wouldn’t mind my changing it or pushing it back or even putting it off but I know he’s excited and would really like for it to happen this year). I’m thinking July 23, or thereabouts.
We’ve picked a venue for the wedding and reception, both outdoor (a lovely little park with a gazebo set next to a redwood forest, great for pictures). And we’ve made a guest list (approx 30-35, depending on who actually says they will attend). I’ve even found a dress and bridesmaids dresses.
Mostly, I’m ovewhelmed by the huge cost associated with everything! Oh My Heavens! I am a HUGE planner and looking at costs for everything is freaking me out! And looking at “Cheap” weddings that have price tags of $5,000-$10,000 isn’t helping! I’m wanting something more along the lines of $2000 or less… preferably less! I’ve already bought the dresses, so I’m not really counting those in the cost. Same thing for the rings (I have mine and the cost for his will be minimal). My mother, in an effort to be helpful, keeps telling me “well, you don’t have to have ____” or “you can skip _____” but I don’t want to cut EVERYTHING, it’s my one and only chance to have a wedding!
For those of you on a very small budget, how are you doing it? What sorts of things are you spending your money on?
Post # 2
- Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead
yarrowwind: Congratulations on your recent engagement! We decided to cut out a lot of the little “extras” that are cute but can really add to the costs and focused on the food, DJ, photographer, and videographer. That covered the things that mattered most to us and mattered most to the guests because the guests really only care about good food and good music and you will be so preoccupied with the fast pace and excitement of the day that having nice pictures and video will be what you and your Darling Husband enjoy for years to come to relive the day. All the rest is really fluff and sadly doesn’t have as much inpact on your guests as it has on your wallet. Happy Planning in the meantime and let me know if I can do any more to help!
Post # 3
A photographer is deffinitely important, as is the food at the reception. I can cut a DJ because neither Fiance or I dance and it’s going to be an outdoor reception so there won’t be a dancefloor anyway.
I’m mostly worried about costs associated with the food (catering is def out, we’re going to have to do food ourselves or some sort of hybrid because I can’t see spending $15+/person on food) and flowers… flowers of any type seem sooooo expensive.
What sort of food did you do for your wedding? How many guests?
Post # 4
yarrowwind: Yes, everything is super expensive! However, I think it is possible to still have all the wedding stuff and stay within budget.
We have been to a couple weddings that were catered by local mexican restaurants, at a cost of about $8/pp. I also know places like Olive Garden and Old Spaghetti Factory do catering. It also helps that you have a guest count of 35. Just for example, you can order a few trays of pasta from Olive Garden ($35/tray and each serves 8) plus a few dozen breadsticks ($5 per dozen), maybe add a salad and you’re set!
Photography is tougher, but if you are adventurous, you can find a photography student or hire a photographer for a shorter amount of time. Most packages are for 6+ hours, so it’s worth asking if you can get 3 hours for whatever price you decide you can afford. Also, if you joing wedding groups on Facebook that are for your area (ie one I’m a member of is Wedding Buy/Sell/Swap Greater Seattle Area) where you can sometimes find people who are trying to break into wedding photography for a lower price.
For flowers what I’ve seen is people go to farmer’s markets the day before or morning of and get these HUGE bouquets for about $5 and use those flowers to make the bridal party bouquets and table centerpieces. I’ve also heard that Costco has good prices, but I can’t vouch for that.
Post # 5
yarrowwind: Congrats on your engagement!! I was overwhelmed at the thought of the average wedding cost in my area and are trying to cut costs anywhere we can. It will definitely help that you have a guest list of under 50! Some things you can probably do without that people don’t really notice…flowers, DJ & favors. I went to a wedding with no flowers but a nice country setting and no one noticed the lack of flowers. If you do want flowers, talk to a florist about the most cost effective blooms at the time of your wedding. You can set up a laptop & speaker with your tunes and do without a DJ. And no one notices the lack of favors…or you can do something simple like a candle to take home at each setting.
Post # 6
jackie86: Ideally I want to do a “book” themed wedding with a touch of D&D (both Fiance and I play and we’re both readers) so I’m going to print out a copy of “A Study in Emerald” for everyone along with a little snack, something like gummy “bookworms”.
I’m mostly worried about my/bridesmaids flowers. The ones I want are going to run me about $240. I could drop that to about $140 if I get Sam’s Club flowers. Idk tho… the Sam’s Club flowers are quite pretty but very generic “wedding flowers” and don’t fit my “theme”. I doubt anyone would notice or care but I’d be able to tell in all my pictures and such from my wedding.
Post # 7
yarrowwind: congrats! for flowers, i would use a lot of babies breathe as it is a stock flower and it is cheap and looks super pretty!